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Hello, all! I'm Grace :) I'm a sophomore in high school, and mbti has become a bit of an obsessive hobby of mine over the past several years; I'm most certainly not an expert, and my lack of an ability to come up with a concrete type for myself reflects this, I think! For most of high school and middle school, I've been a self-identified INFJ. However, during these points in time, my knowledge of cognitive function theory was very much lacking.

I'm a bit more learned now, but I'm still all over the place as far as my supposed type. there are many times I take those throw-away free online myers-briggs assessments and receive infj results, or consider specific behaviors of mine, or thought patterns or an interaction with somebody, or scroll through infj blogs and forums, and think, of course! this is home. (i can provide examples if you like because i think many of my behaviors and thought patterns are worth noting, whether in favor of infj functions or not).

but there are other points where i consider cognitive functions and wonder if i only believe myself to be a ni dom because i WANT to be a ni dom, and what i identify as fe is simply a strong fi-ne connection. (is what i consider inferior se actually si? do i detect much ti in my personality because i am an infj or because i am a thinker?) and then, i wonder if perhaps i'm truly an extrovert! another friend into mbti told me he'd initially typed me as an ENXP!

or what if, i'm simply totally pretentious and am actually a SENSOR who just has become obsessed with the idea of being an intuit? or a thinker, as a few of those who don't know me as well have assumed (actually, i'm fairly confident that i'm feeling dominant, but who knows? not me, apparently.)

and why do i care so much? why do i make such a big deal of my type? because i'm rather terrified that i've been calling myself an infj all these years and am secretly an infj fraud, or that i've somehow changed myself to better fit what i consider to be the ideal "xnfx" type? it's all perhaps a bit ridiculous, i know. i would very much appreciate hearing what you all think of me, in any case. I've decided to fill out one of the questionnaires posted on this forum (many thanks to everyone who's put time into creating those for us; they're positively fantastic).

Before I post my answers to the questionnaire, in case it would help, i'll tell you all my enneagram results -
My core type is a 2w1, while my second type is 9w1, and my third 5w4. i'm not sure how entirely accurate these results are; they're a bit old, actually. but whatever the case, i'll list them on the chance they could provide you some insight.

as far as the questionnaire:

0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind. well. to be frank, i'm actually undergoing a bit of personal stress/school stress at the moment. i'd rather not go into the details of my circumstances. it's all quite boring lol.

i'm not diagnosed with any mental illness, but i've in recent months been considering the possibility of some type of underlying mood disorder. :p again, it's nothing that should significantly change my responses here. in this exact moment, i'm perhaps more anxious or stressed than usual. i'm generally a bit more upbeat and talkative, and less cynical lolol. i'll go drink some water and eat a bit of chocolate and put pajamas on before i respond to rest of these and hopefully be in a better mood :) In any case, I'm a 14 year old girl, and turning 15 very very soon.

1. Click on this link: Flickr: Explore! Look at the random photo for about 30 seconds. Copy and paste it here, and write about your impression of it. I'm afraid I'll have to skip this portion :/ I hope you all don't mind.

2. You are with a group of people in a car, heading to a different town to see your favourite band/artist/musician. Suddenly, the car breaks down for an unknown reason in the middle of nowhere. What are your initial thoughts? What are your outward reactions? Ah, okay. my initial thoughts would probably be ones of panic - I have minor anxiety haha. I'm a bit neurotic, which probably comes through fairly easily through written communication but tends to surprise people who I talk to regularly but am not necessarily close to. i think i'd very immediately analyze the situation and figure out
a. what is happening?
b. is anybody in immediate danger?
c. is there anything i can do to improve the circumstances of the situation??

once i processed that we'd simply gotten stuck, I'd be a bit concerned at first, and worry that we wouldn't make it to the concert (I adore live music and music in general, but considerably more so if it's with people i'm comfortable around), something unsavory would happen, etc., but unless I was already stressed (hormonal, angry, etc.) I'd probably calm down very quickly, and my outward reaction would seem far more calm from the beginning.

I'm often the one calming other people down, I'd probably be reassuring whoever I was with, making sure everyone was okay, asking how I could help whoever was fixing the car (whoever the istp with me was haha), and just in general making sure we were all still content and ensuring the situation didn't worsen.

3. You somehow make it to the concert. The driver wants to go to the afterparty that was announced (and assure you they won't drink so they can drive back later). How do you feel about this party? What do you do? this definitely depends. if i was already quite excited or upbeat, and the concert had just been fantastic, and i was excited and on some sort of adrenaline rush, i might be more likely to immediately agree to a party; most likely, though, I wouldn't be particularly happy about this situation. Again, however, unless I was already extremely aggravated, I probably wouldn't argue.

I don't LOVE parties. they tend to be a tad overwhelming. but unless I thought it was a really horrid idea, I think I would let the driver take us to the afterparty, assuming it was what the majority was interested in. I'd probably offer the group to be the designated driver myself and let the driver drink and enjoy themselves unless I was feeling a particular urge to get drunk (which could be the case) haha.

I might hold a silent grudge for a while, and I might not be the most social at the party, but i'd probably search for other people who were there for the music and talk, or chat with my friends and try to be relaxed. I'd still try to enjoy myself as much as possible and not let my lack of social graces ruin the night for the rest of my friends.

4. On the drive back, your friends are talking. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward reaction? What do you outwardly say?

this is a difficult one. It depends on what the friend is saying. If it's something that's a lighter topic, I feel is a bit more arguable and that I believe we can discuss without anyone being deeply offended, I might inwardly be more curious as to why they believe what they do, try to see the claim from their perspective, and compare it to my own, considering why the differences which have arisen are present.

Outwardly, I again would probably carefully question them. i wouldn't express my difference in opinion immediately, but ask them to explain why they feel how they do. However, if they said something that is strictly against my moral code or that I find at all offensive, I'm going to be quite a lot less open minded. i probably wouldn't say anything at all. i might briefly consider the circumstances of their beliefs. Internally, I'll probably be somewhat annoyed and maybe even angry, depending on the severity of the topic of the conflicting beliefs.

I usually am able to bite my tongue and not express this anger, so I'd most likely not say anything. if i was in a particularly bad mood or was feeling extremely offended or VERY MUCH opposed them in these regards, I'd probably ask them to explain themselves, but make my opposition more clear, and, instead of considering their opinions and ideas, I'd probably instead be thinking of reasons they are wrong and weighing whether or not it's worth it to express my opinion or try to make them understand the other stance and other values or mindsets or why I might find something morally wrong. If it was something I was really passionate about. if it was something on a larger scale.

5. What would you do if you actually saw/experienced something that clashes with your previous beliefs, experiences, and habits?

agh so much of this is up to circumstance. i have a lot to say here and to be completely honest this question and the last are taking quite a lot of time for me to answer and I believe you can get an accurate picture of me from my responses to all of the other questions so I'm going to ask that you all allow me to skip this question and disregard the last. if you very much would like an answer i will provide one later if asked.

6. What are some of your most important values? How did you come about determining them? How can they change? this again will take me quite a long time to answer and there is quite a lot i have to say here and i will certainly answer this but not at this point for the purpose of typing me i think this is information that is perhaps important to have but not necessary and i just can't sort my thoughts enough right now to come up with a coherent response in less than 20 minutes.

7. a) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else? b) If you could change one thing about you personality, what would it be? Why?

8. How do you treat hunches or gut feelings? In what situations are they most often triggered?

9. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?

a. playing piano when i'm home alone, writing or producing music on my laptop in my bed with noise-cancelling headphones on, or writing a brief story idea or basis for an ethics paper in the notes section of my phone late at night. completing a timed essay assignment in english class. talking to my siblings or best friends late at night or hanging out with them at a more social scene (but only for a very brief amount of time. this is only energizing if i'm in a certain mood and with specific people. otherwise it can become very exhausting very fast). finishing a fantastic book. going somewhere new and beautiful and breathtaking and magical. singing in concert. going to a concert.

b. eating (as with people. I eat a bit too much when I'm alone. especially chocolate.). math class. going to my siblings' sports games. excessive amounts of homework. *attending a meeting or lesson i wasn't prepared for, mentally and otherwise*. shopping (sometimes. often times when shopping i'm extremely energized (like extremely extremely) for an hour or two and then i crash completely).

10. What do you repress about your outward behavior or internal thought process when around others? Why?

NOTE: i will answer the several questions i have left unanswered asap. however, it's taking me several hours to complete this questionnaire and i'd very much like to get feedback within the next 24 hours. so for now, i'm going to post what i have, and i will update this tomorrow. i'm so sorry for the inconvenience. thank you all so much. if you've any feedback as to how you would type me i would be very happy to hear it. i appreciate it very much.

love and best wishes


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First things first, please learn to break up your paragraphs more.

You definitely seem like an Fe user in the question #2. Also keep in mind that your anxiety will make you seem Ne inferior.

You really rambled in question 7, but your empathy, and your politeness, and "fake" appearance definitely points to Fe. So you go that part right. Of course you might want to look up some blog and/or thread posts to see if it fits you.

Well question 8 might be a very important question you need to answer.

Anyway I think you're an IXFJ. So we need to know if you're intuitive or a sensor. Look at inferior Ne and Se and see which one fits you most. Someone else on another site said that it's good to find the one that drains you, but if you master it than many of your problems will be solved. Like I said before your anxiety may seem like inferior Ne, so I suggest you pay more attention to inferior Se. If that doesn't fit you then you're probably and an ISFJ.
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