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1. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.

2. Study these two images here and here. Which one do you prefer and why? How would you describe it?
I prefer the second because it reminds me of good talk over coffee with a friend and food. It seems like a warm picture, I suppose.

3. Please describe yourself as a person if you were to introduce yourself to someone else like in a cover letter. What kind of person are you and why?
I hate these kinds of questions because it is too vague of a question for a precise enough answer.

4. What kind of person would you LIKE to be? Why? What kind of person would you NOT want to be? Why?
Person I would like to be: Independent, strong, capable, valorous
Person I would not want to be: Damsel in distress, a person who lets their emotions cloud sound judgement, someone who is insecure

5. A) Do you think there are any differences to how you described yourself and how people actually perceive you? How do you think others would describe you? If there are any discrepancies between these two that are you are aware of; do you know why exactly that is?
Some people have described me as aloof, intimidating (first impressions). Others would describe me as fun, up for anything kind of person, charming. My husband would describe me as argumentative, charming, cutthroat, disciplined. I would agree with all three depending on the context (context being the reason for the discrepancies).

6. What in life do you find to be of importance? Why? If you are unsure you can always take the Value Test and post the results here. Do note that it helps if you narrow it down to 20 or ideally 10 values as suggested at stage 2.

- Family
- Determination
- focus
- Willpower
- loyalty
- confidence
- independence

7. How do you react to new situations in your life? Can you describe an event in your life where you were in an unknown situation? How did you deal with it?
I don't like unexpected situations so my initial response will probably be annoyance. But I will step up and deal with it and if required, will improvise considerably well. When my partner and I (in our teens) were forced to leave his parents house due to a disagreement, we lived in a small apartment and had very little financially. His parents were certain we would come crawling back. I refused to let what they expected come to pass, and budgeted/worked like a maniac. I started to cook for the first time in my life and managed to whip up delicious meals using minimal resources we had. Thirteen years later, married with three children and we have never gone back or depended on anyone. I deal with all unexpected circumstances the same way.

8. Please describe yourself when you are in a stressful situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.
I treat it like something to conquer and fight through it. But if it gets to point where I cannot deal, I will either indulge and seek out something to numb the pain in excess. Or withdraw and wallow in self pity. Probably lock myself away and become uncharacteristically weepy.

9. Please describe yourself when you are in an enjoyable situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.
I become witty, funny and talkative.

10. Describe your relationship to socialization. How do you perceive one-on-one interaction? How do you perceive group interaction?
I like both, but I really dislike small talk unless it serves some kind of purpose

11. Describe your relationship to society. What are the elements of it you hold important or unimportant (e.g. social norms, values, customs, traditions)? How do you see people as a whole?
I hold family quite close to me. Outside of my 'circle' it is a struggle for me to not take note of people's faults. I cannot stand sheep mentality, but I have a heart for the underdog.

12. Describe your relationship to authority. How do you perceive authority? What does it mean to you, and how do you deal with it?
I don't like authority unless I see they are well meaning and doing the job well

13. Describe your relationship to order and chaos. What do order and chaos mean to you? How do they manifest in your daily life?
Order - I prefer it. My life is quite orderly but not to the naked eye or not obvious at first. I have a systemised way that works for me.

Chaos - Depresses me. Chaos must be controlled.

14. What is it that you fear in life? Why? How does this fear manifest to you both in how you think and how you act?
My fear is vulnerability...I will cut people off as soon as I think they are getting too close. I also stubbornly refrain from reaching out despite needing the help. It is my biggest struggle and something those close to me find frustrating about me.

15. What is it that you desire in life? What do you strive to achieve? Why? Where do you think these drives and desires stem from or are inspired by?
Self reliance/independence. I think rejection as a child inspired me to not depend on others for emotional strength.

16. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?
A) Abstract conversation with people I can learn from and vice versa. Dancing whether out at a party or at home B) Being around needy people, talking about mundane things, details

17. Why do you want to know your type? What type do you think you are? Why this/these type(s)? Is there a type that appeals to you, to your self-perception, that you would like to be? Why? If you know your enneagram, please post this here. If you have done any online function tests such as the Keys2Cognition, it helps if you post these results here as well.
I lack self awareness admittedly.

18. Finally, is there something else you find to be of importance you want to add about yourself you think might be of relevance when helping to type you?

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Aloof and intimidating is Te. Short answers indicates Te. Waiiiiit you are an INTJ. How did I miss that?
Yes seriously, if you like having abstract discussions with people. Sensors hate abstract things.

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Discussion Starter · #7 ·
Aloof and intimidating is Te. Short answers indicates Te. Waiiiiit you are an INTJ. How did I miss that?
Yes seriously, if you like having abstract discussions with people. Sensors hate abstract things.
Yes, my sister dislikes the very attempt at abstract conversation unless relating to something that interests her. Even then she cannot bear it for long periods of time. I won't dismiss the idea of ISTJ, though. Cheers.
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