I have this "friend", that I think or use to think of as my "best friend". I've talked to her about things I haven't even talked to myself about. Which is saying a lot. So the other day we where "play fighting" which we do a lot, normally about fake scenarios and stupid stuff. Well, this particular time she turned from playing to irritated very quickly.
I had seen this coming a mile away but normally it will take her a few minutes to filter out what she wants to say vs. what she will actually say. This time there was no filter she just started pounding me with accusations about not having a true "personality" and that I just folding myself into whatever the people around me want me to be. Which I will give to her is a times true but only because when I see people I sense how they feel ,what they want and need, and I do my best to accommodate them so they can be comfortable and feel "safe" in the environment. I don't do this because I don't want to "be myself" but sometimes people don't need "me", they need the really nice me or the really strict me, for example.
Being an INFJ I tried to take in all the information logically and suppress my feeling side, but the more I reflected it all back on her with "maybe your right"s and "I'll take that into account, thanks for your input" (which I totally knew would only further upset her but I was failing at not letting it all hit me, and I was angry), she started on my other "friends" and how the are "superficial" and take advantage of me and how I take advantage of them. She also admitting to only spending time with me because she found me "interesting" and it all meant nothing. I AM HER HOBBY! I let her know that I couldn't tell if she was just playing or really meant what she was saying with that she promptly rolled her eyes and giggled.
Sooo confused. When it was all over with my emotions decided they'd stop by and kick me I the throat. l don't know what to do, everyone else I tell say to not let this come between our friendship, but I really don't see this going anywhere good. I have put a lot of effort into this friendship, should I just drop it?:frustrating:
p.s.Mind you I am pretty young (high school) so my personality is supposed to still be developing. I've tested INFJ all times I've taken it except ones tested INFP.