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I like to consider myself a bit of a MBTI nerd and yet even through all my researching on cognitive functions and various types I can't work out whether I am an INFP or an ENFP. Both profiles sound like me, but I have to pick a side right? So help me out?

I have no doubt that I am xNFP, so that's reassuring. I have been told I am mysterious yet weird because I am often an observer in conversations that don't engage me. Yet I intimidate people somehow because I am the quiet weird girl with the quirky fashion sense and brightly coloured hair... you see I love costumes, it's my absolute passion and I love grabbing people's attention visually and expressing who I am visually but I'm content to be quiet.

I have been told I have both the ability to light up the room with my warmth and the ability to come off as rude and closed off in times where I'm not trying to do either.

As a child I would invite my friends over every day to play games. I always called myself shy but my mother insisted I wasn't. I remember when I was really young I'd be the domineering one in the relationships, the self-proclaimed 'leader' of the group, but I was perfectly content playing by myself, sitting in my world of make believe or drawing in the corner at parties that weren't for my age group.

As a teenager I was never the one to initiate a conversation but if you got me talking about something that I care about then I wouldn't shut up and suddenly I became overbearing, I'd recognise this and shut up, let others take control of the conversation. I would never interrupt someone so if there's not a space in a group conversation for me I would keep quiet. I didn't invite people out as much, just hoped people would invite me out. I was no longer the 'leader' of the group.

Birthday parties always had to revolve around me, but they were the only parties which revolved around me. I feel uncomfortable taking the spotlight if I'm not deserving of it unless I'm dancing. My parties always had dress up themes and something good to dance to. But now I am more content with smaller gatherings of just a few good friends.

University all my friends were introduced to me through my current partner. It bothered me but I didn't have the confidence to go and find those people myself. We both enjoy hosting quiet parties.

Currently I'm in a long term relationship and my alone time has never been more precious. I need it to reflect on where I am. I need space where I know I won't be pestered and I can do something creative or read or lock the doors in a sound proof room and sing knowing that there's no one around or get reacquainted with myself. I easily feel suffocated without this space. I have been told I have the tendency to become a hermit, both in my teenage years and now. I go online, roleplay at stupid times in the morning, ignore sleep, talk to people online. My loved ones always think this is me being unhealthy. I'm not sure if it is or not. There may or may not be a correlation with me doing this and depression.

I don't know if I'm impulsive or overthink things based on how I feel. I think I have a tendency to do both. My relationships are normally started by a quick spur of the moment "Let's do this!" situation. Whether that's deciding "Today I'll tell them I love them" without really assessing what would happen or just kissing them to see how they'd react before I even understand my own feelings. But when it's not an adventure, when it's a decision that completely terrifies me I'll overthink it to the point where I can't do anything and I need someone to push me before I get into action and do anything about it. (like a break up for instance, something which seems hopeless)

And I have suffered with depression in both my late teenage years before university and at the end of university. I don't know if I have anxiety, but if I do it's only something that's started to show in the last few years of my life.

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Don't mistake shyness or confidence for extroversion or introversion. It's how many get mistyped. Best to look into your functions and energies. Do you feel worn out by social interaction, enjoying it but needing to recharge after a while? Or do you feel the need to interact with people for energy? Feeling more or less happy and bouncy afterwards and you end up feeling tired or down if you have a lack of social interaction?

Looks at the functions stack, does your Ne come first? Then you feeling? Or your feeling followed by Ne?

Watch these videos and see which one really rings with you;



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Don't mistake shyness or confidence for extroversion or introversion. It's how many get mistyped. Best to look into your functions and energies. Do you feel worn out by social interaction, enjoying it but needing to recharge after a while? Or do you feel the need to interact with people for energy? Feeling more or less happy and bouncy afterwards and you end up feeling tired or down if you have a lack of social interaction?

Looks at the functions stack, does your Ne come first? Then you feeling? Or your feeling followed by Ne?

Watch these videos and see which one really rings with you;



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I need both in terms of energies. As many people do but I don't need one more than the other... Maybe I need social interactions more? But I'm not adverse to turning down a social event for time alone. I don't think that's going to be the solution to finding out which I am.

And I'm struggling to work out which function comes first, that's why I haven't worked it out yet.

I think it can come down to mood. When I'm feeling down I'll need time to use my Fi alone. When I'm more optimistic I'd rather be using my Ne with friends. I'm not really sure which one I default to more... 8'D
 

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Thanks for your inputs, the videos were helpful, however, despite the majority, I think I may be ENFP. Yes, I have an innerworld of imagination and my quietness often gets misinterpreted as disinterest in socialising. But it does seem that I rely more on Fi when I am depressed. I have to unwravel depression by getting to know and understand my inner-world feelings again and trying to find my sense of self often after bad decisions I've made. I also retreat and become more hermit like during those times. I think I come off as an INFP during these times and get tested as such but get tested as an ENFP at highpoints in my life. It is not my healthy go to. Ne has always influenced my goals in life and is generally what pushes me to act on big decisions on my life. (Taking the risk for the sake of exploration and experience and accepting that it might be a risk to my inner-world, feelings and experiences but it's worth it to feel alive.) I put exploration over authenticity and it doesn't always work out. It motivates me, even if at times I feel guilty for not having the confidence to leap when my mind is screaming to do it. But that's the problem is that ENFPs are portrayed to have so much confidence and energy which I don't have.

I was also focusing only on Ne and Fi when Te and Si are important to consider. I rely on Te a lot. It's the way I managed to get through school, through work and putting my more practical goals into motion. Organising my outerworld helps me relax, and inspires me and keeps me grounded when I need it. My Si is incredibly underdeveloped, my memory is awful, and I find, if anything, when I use it it is crippling for me. I result to using Si when I am unhappy, thinking of the past and living in it... not for something productive. I can't think of any times I have used it to push myself forwards.

So... it fluctuates, probably. And I kind of realised just reading 'INFP' was enough to make me say 'No, that's not right.'
 
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Yeah. a lot of ENFPs often refer themselves as "ambiverted". INFPs usually do not have as much debate over their introversion/extroversion where for ENFPs it's a common theme.
 
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