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I’m having the hardest time typing my best friend. Maybe because she’s so unique and amazing I feel like she doesn’t entirely fit any of the types.
I’m an INFP by the way, and I feel like we’re very similar, so she might be an INFP too, but I think we do differ in some aspects and in the way we think, so it's very possible that she's another type. Anyway, here are some facts about her:

When she and I are around others, she usually talks very little (definitely less than me). When we’re alone, it’s about 50/50.
She has a small circle of close friends.
She’s definitely introverted. There’s no way she’s an E type, 100% sure of it.
She takes care of others A LOT. She’s had jobs e.g. in hospitals, and she takes care of older relatives and family friends who need help, babysits her friends' children, never complaining about it, doing it 100% voluntarily. She actually often prioritizes these things above hanging out with her friends.
When a friend of hers died, she told me she had this feeling that they were with her afterwards. And she's had weird "psychic" moments several times where she knew that a patient at the hospital would die the next day. Creepy stuff, but she was right.
She’s very creative, she writes, paints, and plays several instruments. And I think she can sing but she won’t sing in front of other people, even close friends.
She often starts telling me stuff like, “I went to Alison’s the other day and ...” when I have no idea who Alison is.
She dresses in a very unique way. Fashion people would not approve.
She sometimes has the sense of humor of a perverted boy going through puberty, but she only shows that around close friends.
She doesn’t talk much, but she has amazing comebacks that I never would have thought of when people are being rude or trying to make her uncomfortable.
We have an understanding for each other that I have never experienced with any other friend, family member or romantic partner.
She has little to no interest in politics, doesn’t watch the news or read the paper.
Sometimes I just won’t hear from her for a month simply because she didn’t remember to check her e-mails. She also doesn’t own a smartphone and doesn’t plan on getting one.
She knows less about computers and tech-y stuff than the average person.
Family is very important to her.
She does not really have an urge to travel much. She prefers just being with her loved ones to going on adventures.
She can get really invested in fictional stories, like books/films etc.
Her room is insanely messy. There’s so much stuff lying around, sometimes you can’t even see the floor. I’m not exaggerating.
She wasn’t that good at school, and doesn’t want to go to university. She’s not the academic, ambitious, career-driven type, at all. She cares more about doing something to help others.
Money and materialistic things don’t matter to her.
She only truly opens up about her feelings to very few people.
It’s easier for her to express herself through writing.
 

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You not hearing from her in a good month is a good sign of INFP. Sometimes we just lock down into hermit mode. I'm an INFP and also have no intention of getting a phone. Could be a sign lol

And I might add she sounds like quite the cutey. Of course my any woman with a total disregard for politics and a gift in writing has my attention. ;)
 

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You not hearing from her in a good month is a good sign of INFP. Sometimes we just lock down into hermit mode. I'm an INFP and also have no intention of getting a phone. Could be a sign lol)
Yes, detachment of the object. I could see how that could look Fi. But why is she disengaging from other people? That's more important than the fact that she does.

She seems rather disengaged from the sensory world. Definitely could care less about the latest, the greatest. So much so you could vouch for Si dominate.

She puts others needs above her own. Fi is caring. Fi is helpful. Healthy Fi anyway (healthy any type really; Fe can be pretty selfish and uncaring, contrary to the sweet bunny kitten stereotype; which some are (I cite Tay Swift as the ultimate example. Clear xSFJ, but I lean towards introvert), but stereotypes are boring right?

So if stereotypes are boring, why am I seeing Fe? Her motivation. Forget my friends, forget my life, forget my needs. I'm going to engage in volunteering, and I'm only going to tell my offensive jokes around others who I know will accept them. She doesn't sound detached from the object at all; rather engaged in fact, but it doesn't come across as dominate to me.
 

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Yes, detachment of the object. I could see how that could look Fi. But why is she disengaging from other people? That's more important than the fact that she does.

She seems rather disengaged from the sensory world. Definitely could care less about the latest, the greatest. So much so you could vouch for Si dominate.

She puts others needs above her own. Fi is caring. Fi is helpful. Healthy Fi anyway (healthy any type really; Fe can be pretty selfish and uncaring, contrary to the sweet bunny kitten stereotype; which some are (I cite Tay Swift as the ultimate example. Clear xSFJ, but I lean towards introvert), but stereotypes are boring right?

So if stereotypes are boring, why am I seeing Fe? Her motivation. Forget my friends, forget my life, forget my needs. I'm going to engage in volunteering, and I'm only going to tell my offensive jokes around others who I know will accept them. She doesn't sound detached from the object at all; rather engaged in fact, but it doesn't come across as dominate to me.
Yes taking a closer look you might be right. She may look INFP but I've not know myself or many other INFPs to be good at comebacks when in an uncomfortable situation. A good "F you too." works nicely.

And the helping people rather than pursue an ambition. My stepdad is Si dominant and by god that man annoys me with his selflessness just become a freakin musician you know you want it man.

Ahem... so yes I am in agreement with you.
 

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She's definitely IxFx, I agree with that. I can see how you would think she's an ISFJ, however, I have several other friends who I am 90% sure are ISFJs, and she's just completely different from them, definitely not a traditionalist (SJ).
 
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