Well.....the reason I asked you what I did, was to kind of help you see that your idealism is still holding out for hope here. Since he's not good relationship material, it would probably be best for you to put a strong boundary there. Think of it as the alcoholic who cannot have just one drink.:wink:
We secretly desire that we are going to be THE ONE to make all the difference in the world. We're "special" and "different." Once they get to know us, they will see our uniqueness and all others will look like mushy trash compared to "us." (insert love songs here.) Movies have made millions being crafted around this belief enticing us that much more.
Know what the hardest thing is about discovering infidelity in a relationship? It's not gathering evidence or those types of things. It's getting past the "love like ours" mentality. For the betrayed individual to be willing to face the fact that..their spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend was capable of doing such a thing is THE biggest hurdle. Once they do accept this, and look back into the past? Suddenly the idealistic glasses come off, and they see all the signs they failed to see before. This guy is giving you signs here and well......we're just trying to help you see them for the reality that it is.