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I'm not sure how to explain this but I'll give it a try.
I don't have any friends at the moment and any previous didn't last very long.
I find having friends very difficult. I have a hard time tolerating certain personalities and often find that I start comparing myself and my abilities with the friends that are more outspoken and share a lot more of themselves with other people. Being around this personlaity type makes me feel almost inferior to them and I start doubting myself.
I have found that not having friends and doing things on my own has helped me build my confidence and has allowed me to do things at my own pace finding things out for myself, therefore enjoying myself and life a lot more.
I have just started University and I am sharing a house with 7 other people most of them I get on well with and most of us seem to be introvert type people in that we need recovery time on our own in our own rooms.
However one girl is the opposite to this, she is very outspoken and often dominates the conversations we have. Making the conversation about her. She is 3 years younger then me but for some reason I feel intimidated and irritated by her because I am suddenly finding myself questioning my personality thinking that me being irritated by her means there is something wrong with me. I feel like I am starting to go backwards to the place I was 4 years ago.
I feel almost pressured into having to socialise with the people in my house when i just want to do my own thing. This girl in particular is very 'we should all go do this together' all the time and it puts me in the awkward position that if I don't want to do something and I say no I'm worried that I will offend her and the rest of the house.
I am a very emotional person and I feel things deeply. Being around lots of people seems to make me feel muddled inside. It's like I am feeling so many different feelings all at once and I don't know how to handle it.
Do INFJ's usually find friendships difficult? The last four years I have been more at peace with myself by not having friends. However I've notived that a few people, my brother and sister in particular, seem to think there is something wrong with me by not having friends.
I sometimes get lonely when I don't have someone to go to the theatre with but other than that I'd just rather be on my own.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Sorry for the long post. I'm feeling a little upset about all this.
I don't have any friends at the moment and any previous didn't last very long.
I find having friends very difficult. I have a hard time tolerating certain personalities and often find that I start comparing myself and my abilities with the friends that are more outspoken and share a lot more of themselves with other people. Being around this personlaity type makes me feel almost inferior to them and I start doubting myself.
I have found that not having friends and doing things on my own has helped me build my confidence and has allowed me to do things at my own pace finding things out for myself, therefore enjoying myself and life a lot more.
I have just started University and I am sharing a house with 7 other people most of them I get on well with and most of us seem to be introvert type people in that we need recovery time on our own in our own rooms.
However one girl is the opposite to this, she is very outspoken and often dominates the conversations we have. Making the conversation about her. She is 3 years younger then me but for some reason I feel intimidated and irritated by her because I am suddenly finding myself questioning my personality thinking that me being irritated by her means there is something wrong with me. I feel like I am starting to go backwards to the place I was 4 years ago.
I feel almost pressured into having to socialise with the people in my house when i just want to do my own thing. This girl in particular is very 'we should all go do this together' all the time and it puts me in the awkward position that if I don't want to do something and I say no I'm worried that I will offend her and the rest of the house.
I am a very emotional person and I feel things deeply. Being around lots of people seems to make me feel muddled inside. It's like I am feeling so many different feelings all at once and I don't know how to handle it.
Do INFJ's usually find friendships difficult? The last four years I have been more at peace with myself by not having friends. However I've notived that a few people, my brother and sister in particular, seem to think there is something wrong with me by not having friends.
I sometimes get lonely when I don't have someone to go to the theatre with but other than that I'd just rather be on my own.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Sorry for the long post. I'm feeling a little upset about all this.