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I was reading discussions on the other sub forums and people seem to think that personality types are developed somewhat unconsciously at a very young age and parents/ family only somewhat develop someone's personality type.
I would agree that humanity probably choose a type at a young age and stick with it and grow with it. If something happens, it may alter but they'll always try to get back to it.
My situation being that I was the child of an older Jamaican man and a white English woman, so I am mixed race. I also have an older sister.
My father was what you would call an extreme extrovert, he was known around the town I live in as 'the life and soul of the party'. He worked in the Air Force, he was extremely ambitious and driven and was admired by many, many people. Unfortunatly he was alot older than my mother, who is a much, quieter person.
Unforunately, when I was aged 7, he died. Leaving my mum to raise two kids on her own. She, unfortunatly didn't work, since she relied on my dad.
Me as a person, were always much more like my father, I was loud, fun, talkative, funny and was interested in drama, that was before he died. Growing up in my teen years however, I became an extreme introvert. Not having my dad around to look up to to show me it's okay to be a confident, ambitious man I went in a shell. I developed social fear and stuck to my ideals. My sister tried to BE my father in a sense, being the one who is apparently stronger and more in touch with reality than the rest of us, while my mother does nothing. Well she keeps things in order but mostly complains. She has a very fragile persona and it's hard to take her seriously. She seems ISTJ, has a one track mind.
At this point I don't know what to do. I feel as though I cannot move on with my life with things being the way they are. I have nothing to fall back on. No-one to support me. I have slight ADD at times and just KNOW if there was someone there to support me I could be the fun, confident, driven person I'm supposed to be, I don't know if that's ESFP or ENFJ, I'm thinking ESFP, but I have become so intutive, working things out for myself that I could never 'go back' to being an ESFP, which is what I think I was before my dad passed away.
I like the idea of making people smile and living in the moment (ESFP) but I like my analytical persona, high ideals and imagination (INFP) but I also like to be warm, funny, expressive and open (ENFJ).
So now, I DON'T KNOW what to do, what to be and what my next step is. I often feel like I can't do anything without someone else looking out for me. When I DO do things on my own I procrasinate and am not focused enough. Help!!!
I would agree that humanity probably choose a type at a young age and stick with it and grow with it. If something happens, it may alter but they'll always try to get back to it.
My situation being that I was the child of an older Jamaican man and a white English woman, so I am mixed race. I also have an older sister.
My father was what you would call an extreme extrovert, he was known around the town I live in as 'the life and soul of the party'. He worked in the Air Force, he was extremely ambitious and driven and was admired by many, many people. Unfortunatly he was alot older than my mother, who is a much, quieter person.
Unforunately, when I was aged 7, he died. Leaving my mum to raise two kids on her own. She, unfortunatly didn't work, since she relied on my dad.
Me as a person, were always much more like my father, I was loud, fun, talkative, funny and was interested in drama, that was before he died. Growing up in my teen years however, I became an extreme introvert. Not having my dad around to look up to to show me it's okay to be a confident, ambitious man I went in a shell. I developed social fear and stuck to my ideals. My sister tried to BE my father in a sense, being the one who is apparently stronger and more in touch with reality than the rest of us, while my mother does nothing. Well she keeps things in order but mostly complains. She has a very fragile persona and it's hard to take her seriously. She seems ISTJ, has a one track mind.
At this point I don't know what to do. I feel as though I cannot move on with my life with things being the way they are. I have nothing to fall back on. No-one to support me. I have slight ADD at times and just KNOW if there was someone there to support me I could be the fun, confident, driven person I'm supposed to be, I don't know if that's ESFP or ENFJ, I'm thinking ESFP, but I have become so intutive, working things out for myself that I could never 'go back' to being an ESFP, which is what I think I was before my dad passed away.
I like the idea of making people smile and living in the moment (ESFP) but I like my analytical persona, high ideals and imagination (INFP) but I also like to be warm, funny, expressive and open (ENFJ).
So now, I DON'T KNOW what to do, what to be and what my next step is. I often feel like I can't do anything without someone else looking out for me. When I DO do things on my own I procrasinate and am not focused enough. Help!!!
