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Hi ENTJs! I'm a college-age INFP who has realized over the course of the summer that her ENTJ-mother/INFP-daughter dynamic is not quite as healthy as it should be. I should preface this by saying that my mother is a wonderful mother who always wants what's best for me. However, I've been noticing that whenever we have different opinions regarding a situation, decision or action and I voice my opinion as a second option to hers, she either assumes an irritated/argumentative/scornful attitude that asserts her opinion as the clearly better one, or she in effect pays no real attention to what I say and continues on without ever having considered my suggestion. Suffice it to say, I am growing quite irritated with how my mother never comes to accept my opinion whenever we have a conflict of thoughts. When I do try to assert my opinion, she inevitably turns the conversation into a stubborn, one-sided argument that leaves me feeling drained and unhappy. My theory on her unyielding attitude is that the prospect of losing control of a situation repels her so strongly that she views the act of deferring to another's opinion as an act of relinquishing control.
If any of you ENTJs have suggestions regarding how I could make this aspect of my mother/daughter relationship more healthy, and how I could convince my mom to somehow let up on her need for absolute control, I would greatly appreciate it!
If any of you ENTJs have suggestions regarding how I could make this aspect of my mother/daughter relationship more healthy, and how I could convince my mom to somehow let up on her need for absolute control, I would greatly appreciate it!