I hope some of you can maybe help me to better deal with my wife when she gets upset. She tested as an ENTJ and I believe she fits that type pretty well. When she is happy she is tolerable with some outbursts that I have learned to deal with, but when she gets upset over something she drives me f-ing crazy. The problem is when she gets upset she dosent care who hears her or sees her and in my opinion makes us both look like fools. I was raised in the complete opposite way where acting like that is hugely looked down on so it gets under my skin quite a bit. She has a photographic memory and is a 4.0 Nursing Student so she is very sharp. When she throws a tantrum she just buries me under all sorts of reasonings to support her and my problem is they are very logical and I cant argue to save my life. I am getting better at it though as I am now getting lots of practice One thing that she told me really upsets her is when she throws a fit and vents to me I always answer with a more rational explaination of the situation which she interprets as me ALWAYS taking the other person's side. When I hear a one sided arguement like that though it strikes a nerve with me and I cant stand it, let alone agreeing with it. Also when she is venting she always is asking me to provide an answer but then completely discounts it and ends up asking the same questions over and over again. She definately drives herself crazy as well as me and acts like everyone is out to get her all the time or she is being somewhow treated less than everyone else. Any pointers for me? thanks.