And very typically we're not caricatures of a stereotypical man in society, so putting those masculine expectations on us will push us away very fast.
That's exactly what I like about you! I don't like essentialism and to me gender roles are a pure social construction. As a child, kids made fun of me by calling me a tomboy, because I dressed like a boy, played "boyish" games, and prefered my boy friends. In my teenage years I changed and became physically "feminine" because I wanted to, but in my mind it doesn't change the fact that I despise these pre-built roles. I don't mind making the first move, and to me the most attractive guys are sensitive, creative, and can tolerate my independance. INFPs are the best at this.
@Plumedoux thanks for your insight! Hmmm I'm not sure he
likes me, but I'm gonna try anyway! We share a lot of music, so when one song/track is sensual, I'm not sure I should take it personally. Except once, the lyrics were accurately relatable, although erotic. But I don't want to focus on this kind of details and I'd rather see him face to face, his reactions and his gaze talk a lot more.
And yep INFPs and ENFPs get along well! We're quite similar. But as
@Kito said, we also complement each other: for instance, my friend is pessimistic and quiet while I'm energetic and absolutely optimistic. He's a great listener and he understands deeply everything, he makes me feel comfortable and free, while I entertain him and try to boost his confidence. He seems rather depressed these days, he sleeps at random hours, thinks about giving up college, smokes weed and feels bad because he doesn't manage to make music anymore

I want to hug him and help him recovering his creativity, it hurts so much to know he's suffering.
@nicoloco90 yeah indeed it's really hard to gently reject someone! I fear that too. Haha it's okay, I understand this kind of attitude can be threatening, especially if it hurt you in the past. I hope it has healed, and that this guy is trustworthy!
@Riven you're right, a love relationship can't be balanced under these conditions. But hopefully friends and family can provide a welcome support. Good luck on fixing these issues!
@Coldmist oh I've went through a similar experience and didn't feel able to flirt for years. It's typically when people seduce just to boost their self-esteem, and throw away their toy when they're done with it. Eventually confidence comes back. :frustrating:
Your ideas to show your affection are adorable. The pizza thing would make me feel so special, yet I'm sure I would still think it's only friendship!
As I said, it's veeery subtle between my INFP friend and I. I have no clue whether he knows I have a crush on him or not. We talk everyday, we tease and compliment each other, sometimes I'm tactile with him for instance I put my hand on his shoulder after I jokingly made fun of him. I don't hide I find him handsome and fit, I don't explicitly say it either (I should. On the next occasion I do it!). We played with facebook tests and astrology saying we were meant to date. But it always comes off as jokes or silly stuff between friends, I don't know if it's a shield.
What can a girl do so you know she's into you? At which point do you think "ok I guess I have a chance with her"?