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I'm wondering if I can detect a pattern in the way we ENFPs date, or if it really is just random.
There has been a couple who haven't been typed and won't be listed (Or they lasted less than a week), but generally all my SOs and even exs were happy to take the MBTI test.

I've Dated:
- An ENTP: The description for a comparative relationship were dead-on. We've remained besties, but we always get on each other's nerves.
-An ENFJ: Terribly frustrating. Like an ENFP that won't let any real emotions out.
-An INTP: Interesting. Supposedly an iceberg, but in actuality total mushball.
-An ISTP: D'awww. I <3 my ISTP. They're ridiculous. I can't even explain my love for ISTPs in general. They're eternally fascinating. They all always look like they're thinking something crazily deep, but usually they aren't thinking a thing or about how something works. They're like a puzzle an ENFP can't figure out, but never grows frustrated by.

So what other types (Confirmed or assumed) have you dated, my fellow, and lovable, ENFPs?
What were your general interactions with said types?
Do you have a particularly favored type?
 

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Hahha:p

ENTP-Sometimes we looks like we were born to be together ,but sometimes like we competely don't fit to each other-And I can write long letter about that:p.

ESTJ??- First allegedly everything ok-he was nice and cute but later..He told me sth really hurt what burn our bridges.

Ohh (in summer long time ago).. xxTx- :p - weird!

ESFP- at primary school-We were friends from childchood and there wasn't none attraction!

And date or not date probably IxxJ?? -very caring and never let me down.
 

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Aaa ok and I think probably I was enchantment 3-4 years in probably ENFP or ENFJ- I don't know his type becouse he was like ENFP but not such weird:p
 

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-An ISTP: D'awww. I <3 my ISTP. They're ridiculous. I can't even explain my love for ISTPs in general. They're eternally fascinating. They all always look like they're thinking something crazily deep, but usually they aren't thinking a thing or about how something works. They're like a puzzle an ENFP can't figure out, but never grows frustrated by.
ISTP - Just beginning a relationship with one. He is ridiculously adorable, you are right! He is very challenging to me but I enjoy that. I hope my minor frustrations with him will fade out once we start becoming more comfortable expressing ourselves. (We're still so awkward and shy we can barely say more than "I really like talking to you," without blushing irresponsibly.)

INFJ - I really feel like he was what could have been a soul mate because of how romantic we both were. However, his lack of self-esteem prodded him to tear down both his and my self-image at the same time. His fear of me being imperfect ended up separating us. (He was convinced I wasn't perfect. :p) Besides, who wants a guy who tells you that you have to be as skinny as Keira Knightly to be pretty? :tongue:
 

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ISTP - Just beginning a relationship with one. He is ridiculously adorable, you are right! He is very challenging to me but I enjoy that. I hope my minor frustrations with him will fade out once we start becoming more comfortable expressing ourselves. (We're still so awkward and shy we can barely say more than "I really like talking to you," without blushing irresponsibly.)

INFJ - I really feel like he was what could have been a soul mate because of how romantic we both were. However, his lack of self-esteem prodded him to tear down both his and my self-image at the same time. His fear of me being imperfect ended up separating us. (He was convinced I wasn't perfect. :p) Besides, who wants a guy who tells you that you have to be as skinny as Keira Knightly to be pretty? :tongue:
I love that phase. It's possibly the cutest thing ever watching an ISTP flustered with sweet emotions. The phase actually really never seems to end. They will still blush and be flustered at every little sweet thing they think. I've found that if you have frustrations with the ISTP, it's the best thing to tell them. They really do like making things better.

As for your INFJ, you're beautiful! INFJs can be really critical (My dad is one), especially ones with low self-esteem. You just have to suck it up and tell them to stop and you're not going to put up with them tearing you down, My dad and I's relationship really improved after I stopped letting him get to me.
 

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I love that phase. It's possibly the cutest thing ever watching an ISTP flustered with sweet emotions. The phase actually really never seems to end. They will still blush and be flustered at every little sweet thing they think. I've found that if you have frustrations with the ISTP, it's the best thing to tell them. They really do like making things better.

As for your INFJ, you're beautiful! INFJs can be really critical (My dad is one), especially ones with low self-esteem. You just have to suck it up and tell them to stop and you're not going to put up with them tearing you down, My dad and I's relationship really improved after I stopped letting him get to me.

Oh wow, thanks for the tip about ISTPs getting flustered with romantic things, that has always been one of my FAVORITEST ever characteristics of the kind of guy I like. Yeah, it's adorable, me and him. It feels like I'm 16 and I'm in love for the first time ever. Thanks girl :happy:
 

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Oh wow, thanks for the tip about ISTPs getting flustered with romantic things, that has always been one of my FAVORITEST ever characteristics of the kind of guy I like. Yeah, it's adorable, me and him. It feels like I'm 16 and I'm in love for the first time ever. Thanks girl :happy:
No problem, and good luck! :laughing:
 

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ISFJ and INFJ. The first was a horrible match. She was constantly jealous of everything I did and never came close to understanding me. The second was awesome times infinity.
 

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ISFJ and INFJ. The first was a horrible match. She was constantly jealous of everything I did and never came close to understanding me. The second was awesome times infinity.
My INTP was like that. He didn't even like me hanging out with my best friend who is a gay guy. He wanted me to himself, and it was horrible and oppressive.
 

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ENFJ, INFJ, ENTP, INTJ

Haha...that's a lotta Js! The ENFJ was my best friend and our stint in relationship land was short-lived. We should have just stayed best friends, but you know, we were young and new at these things. :crazy:

The INFJ was my longest and most turbulent (but still great) relationship. He had a lot of mental problems. Oh goodness...there was a lot about this one that was fantastic and a lot about it that was absolutely terrible.

ENTP...my first jump into NT land. He was much older than me. We had great surface chemistry, but this definitely didn't last long at all.

The INTJ one was my best. I never felt like someone complimented me more by just being himself. It wasn't without it's conflicts and problems, but we both grew so much together and learned a lot about what it is to be in a mature, loving and balanced relationship.


And next? I can only wonder...:tongue:
 

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Not to sound overly analytical...but define dating for me? lol
As in actual established relationship? or people you just dated around/had flings with (and if so, single, multiple occasions, etc.)? Does it have to be exclusive? Or can it be an open relationship?
 

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ESFP - passionate, so much attraction, great conversations, but at times he came across shallow and would try too hard to get along with everyone and he always had be center of attention. I felt like I couldn't keep up with his energy, and I almost felt competitive with him in a way which is a side I didn't like in myself. We wanted different things from life so it was for the best it ended, but overall I'd it went well.

INTP - He came from an abusive family so I don't know if all of his traits fit typical INTPs or just his situation, but he was very hot and cold. He could be very caring and mushy sweet, and then he would get distant and even cruel and try to play mind games, and try to control me (and other people who cared about him) He expected me to be there for him when he needed me, but didn't always want to (or maybe was unable) be strong for me in return.... The good was very good though. It just was unpredictible.

ESTP - Fun. Better off as friends. Plain and simple. No romantic chemistry at all.

ENFJ - Started off very nicely, he was very sweet and caring, but a bit too emotional for me, though that wasn't a deal breaker, but he could get clingy and possessive and that doesn't sit well with me at all.

ISTP - Good balance of strengths and weakknesses. We converse well, we entertain each other, there is passion and we have the same core values. We often come to the same conclusions but get there in completely different ways, which is interesting. I do wish he was a bit more in touch with his feelings. He shows his love in practical ways more than romantic ways, I wish he was a BIT more romantic. He can be though, he just has to work at it.
 

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Not to sound overly analytical...but define dating for me? lol
As in actual established relationship? or people you just dated around/had flings with (and if so, single, multiple occasions, etc.)? Does it have to be exclusive? Or can it be an open relationship?
Whatever qualifies as a romantic (Not just a friendship) relationship in your mind.
 

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ENFJ: first one we were best friends but we started dating and were at each other's throats because he was so right. Second one, I don't even know what the heck is going on right now.
ENFP: First one, still best friends but he was stand-offish in our relationship. Second one, super fun but unwilling to say those affectionate words first because he was shy and we both needed to hear.
ISTJ: Oh, I loved how he could reassure me and could compliment me and admire me all while completely trampling on my thoughts and emotions with his criticism and jaded world-view.
ISTP: So, so fun and hot and great in every way and realistic and so in the moment. But he couldn't see his own potential and I had to move away.
ENTJ: Manipulative, brilliant, so unbelievably talented but spoiled, selfish, and insensitive--rarely said those things I need to hear like "You're so beautiful."

I recently went on a date with an INFJ, omg I hated him. I love INFJs I really do but this guy treated me like a parent--I did not feel like I was on a date I felt like we were married and I was that irresponsible parent that leaves the stove on and he scolds me and then wants to do it. Barf.

ENTP: he was a playboy I couldn't trust him but it made me feel special to be the girl he came back to at the end of the night. So smart and fun and we could talk about anything interesting. We watched movies on string theory and he was so interested in learning and had so many interesting experiences. He was awesome.

I am so curious about this topic myself. Is it the types that get us or is it other things plus the types? The ISTJ was great and everything but we were both in need financially and going through big things in our lives so I think trouble between types gets amplified in that kind of situation.
 

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I'm wondering if I can detect a pattern in the way we ENFPs date, or if it really is just random.
There has been a couple who haven't been typed and won't be listed (Or they lasted less than a week), but generally all my SOs and even exs were happy to take the MBTI test.

I've Dated:
- An ENTP: The description for a comparative relationship were dead-on. We've remained besties, but we always get on each other's nerves.
-An ENFJ: Terribly frustrating. Like an ENFP that won't let any real emotions out.
-An INTP: Interesting. Supposedly an iceberg, but in actuality total mushball.
-An ISTP: D'awww. I <3 my ISTP. They're ridiculous. I can't even explain my love for ISTPs in general. They're eternally fascinating. They all always look like they're thinking something crazily deep, but usually they aren't thinking a thing or about how something works. They're like a puzzle an ENFP can't figure out, but never grows frustrated by.

So what other types (Confirmed or assumed) have you dated, my fellow, and lovable, ENFPs?
What were your general interactions with said types?
Do you have a particularly favored type?
My ISTP never frustrated me either. I still think about him sometimes. It's so weird that he is so different from me but I could never be mad at him and I think he was the same way about me. :)
 

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Hey, theluckyone, I hope you find me, next!
Actually one of my best friends is an ISFP but she's a girl and, alas, we are both straight. But, she was my prom date in high school. We went for sushi and walked like we were a couple. It was really fun.
 

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My sister is an INTP I can attest to the hard shell corrective attitude with a mushy center. That is so INTP! :) I think they're so militant against emotions because they're so gushy.
 
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