Hey ENFP, what types have you dated?

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Discussion Starter · Jul 22, 2010

I'm wondering if I can detect a pattern in the way we ENFPs date, or if it really is just random.
There has been a couple who haven't been typed and won't be listed (Or they lasted less than a week), but generally all my SOs and even exs were happy to take the MBTI test.

I've Dated:
- An ENTP: The description for a comparative relationship were dead-on. We've remained besties, but we always get on each other's nerves.
-An ENFJ: Terribly frustrating. Like an ENFP that won't let any real emotions out.
-An INTP: Interesting. Supposedly an iceberg, but in actuality total mushball.
-An ISTP: D'awww. I <3 my ISTP. They're ridiculous. I can't even explain my love for ISTPs in general. They're eternally fascinating. They all always look like they're thinking something crazily deep, but usually they aren't thinking a thing or about how something works. They're like a puzzle an ENFP can't figure out, but never grows frustrated by.

So what other types (Confirmed or assumed) have you dated, my fellow, and lovable, ENFPs?
What were your general interactions with said types?
Do you have a particularly favored type?

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marzipan01

· #15 · Jul 27, 2010

ENFJ: first one we were best friends but we started dating and were at each other's throats because he was so right. Second one, I don't even know what the heck is going on right now.
ENFP: First one, still best friends but he was stand-offish in our relationship. Second one, super fun but unwilling to say those affectionate words first because he was shy and we both needed to hear.
ISTJ: Oh, I loved how he could reassure me and could compliment me and admire me all while completely trampling on my thoughts and emotions with his criticism and jaded world-view.
ISTP: So, so fun and hot and great in every way and realistic and so in the moment. But he couldn't see his own potential and I had to move away.
ENTJ: Manipulative, brilliant, so unbelievably talented but spoiled, selfish, and insensitive--rarely said those things I need to hear like "You're so beautiful."

I recently went on a date with an INFJ, omg I hated him. I love INFJs I really do but this guy treated me like a parent--I did not feel like I was on a date I felt like we were married and I was that irresponsible parent that leaves the stove on and he scolds me and then wants to do it. Barf.

ENTP: he was a playboy I couldn't trust him but it made me feel special to be the girl he came back to at the end of the night. So smart and fun and we could talk about anything interesting. We watched movies on string theory and he was so interested in learning and had so many interesting experiences. He was awesome.

I am so curious about this topic myself. Is it the types that get us or is it other things plus the types? The ISTJ was great and everything but we were both in need financially and going through big things in our lives so I think trouble between types gets amplified in that kind of situation.

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marzipan01

· #16 · Jul 27, 2010

Waffle said:
I'm wondering if I can detect a pattern in the way we ENFPs date, or if it really is just random.
There has been a couple who haven't been typed and won't be listed (Or they lasted less than a week), but generally all my SOs and even exs were happy to take the MBTI test.

I've Dated:
- An ENTP: The description for a comparative relationship were dead-on. We've remained besties, but we always get on each other's nerves.
-An ENFJ: Terribly frustrating. Like an ENFP that won't let any real emotions out.
-An INTP: Interesting. Supposedly an iceberg, but in actuality total mushball.
-An ISTP: D'awww. I <3 my ISTP. They're ridiculous. I can't even explain my love for ISTPs in general. They're eternally fascinating. They all always look like they're thinking something crazily deep, but usually they aren't thinking a thing or about how something works. They're like a puzzle an ENFP can't figure out, but never grows frustrated by.

So what other types (Confirmed or assumed) have you dated, my fellow, and lovable, ENFPs?
What were your general interactions with said types?
Do you have a particularly favored type?

My ISTP never frustrated me either. I still think about him sometimes. It's so weird that he is so different from me but I could never be mad at him and I think he was the same way about me.

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marzipan01

· #19 · Jul 27, 2010

Hey, theluckyone, I hope you find me, next!
Actually one of my best friends is an ISFP but she's a girl and, alas, we are both straight. But, she was my prom date in high school. We went for sushi and walked like we were a couple. It was really fun.

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marzipan01

· #20 · Jul 27, 2010

My sister is an INTP I can attest to the hard shell corrective attitude with a mushy center. That is so INTP!

I think they're so militant against emotions because they're so gushy.

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marzipan01

· #21 · Jul 27, 2010

Arioche said:
Not to sound overly analytical...but define dating for me? lol
As in actual established relationship? or people you just dated around/had flings with (and if so, single, multiple occasions, etc.)? Does it have to be exclusive? Or can it be an open relationship?

All, any of the above. I thought this was about ENFPs and being intimate with other types.

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marzipan01

· #26 · Jul 29, 2010

For me, INFJ is very insightful and I appreciate their input so much but my mom is an INFJ so I feel like I couldn't date one simply because I already have one in my life. It's the introverted judgment that while is so insightful can cut so deeply and destroy me to my very core. I don't think I could handle that from a significant other especially one that is always right.

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