So there is this guy..
And he's an INFP. we took the testing for school, and he got INFP. he was also pretty interested in this personality typing stuff, read up on it, and ive got to admit, he is definitely an INFP.
The problem here is..
I have a crush on him.
And I tried to 1) convince myself that im not supposed to like him[didnt work] 2)came up with explanations like "oh you like him just cuz he's available"[didnt work] 3) tried to ignore it hoping the feelings would disappear..it got stronger every time and still does.
I figured that the best thing to do at this point is admit that I like him. Yes, me, falling for a cute young man. Rationalizing it gets me nowhere with this.
But the thing is him and I are very close friends. I can talk to him about anything[ we've talked about sex, guys' briefs, girls' underwear, etc]. And it was not awkward at all. I've also done physical stuff[oh it was just innocent, I played with his hair, held his hand a few times etc] But that's not the only thing. It's just that when I'm with him it just feels so right and natural..I don't have to worry about trying to impress him or anything because he can see right through me and sometimes he knows what I'M feeling even before I can explain it myself[wtf!] And I love a lot of things about him..he's so spontaneous, fun, sensitive[sorry I have a total weakness when it comes to falling for sensitive guys], deep[does this sound INFP anyone? lol!], and he's just a really sweet guy overall.
It kills me that I can't tell him how I feel about him though. I'm not sure how he'd take it. I'd miss him if we stopped being friends or if he got freaked out that I secretly harbor romantic feelings towards him. Right now he has no clue[I hide it pretty well according to one of our mutual friends who I just told yesterday] and I'm afraid that if I tell him he'd get freaked out. At the moment, he's single. And it's not just the fact that he *may* get freaked out, I also don't want him to get so "freaked out" that he stops being my friend.
I hate myself for hiding this from him but I've convinced myself that it's better than ruining everything.
Does anyone have any advice?
Sorry this was SOO long! Thanks everyone
roud:
And he's an INFP. we took the testing for school, and he got INFP. he was also pretty interested in this personality typing stuff, read up on it, and ive got to admit, he is definitely an INFP.
The problem here is..
I have a crush on him.
And I tried to 1) convince myself that im not supposed to like him[didnt work] 2)came up with explanations like "oh you like him just cuz he's available"[didnt work] 3) tried to ignore it hoping the feelings would disappear..it got stronger every time and still does.
I figured that the best thing to do at this point is admit that I like him. Yes, me, falling for a cute young man. Rationalizing it gets me nowhere with this.
But the thing is him and I are very close friends. I can talk to him about anything[ we've talked about sex, guys' briefs, girls' underwear, etc]. And it was not awkward at all. I've also done physical stuff[oh it was just innocent, I played with his hair, held his hand a few times etc] But that's not the only thing. It's just that when I'm with him it just feels so right and natural..I don't have to worry about trying to impress him or anything because he can see right through me and sometimes he knows what I'M feeling even before I can explain it myself[wtf!] And I love a lot of things about him..he's so spontaneous, fun, sensitive[sorry I have a total weakness when it comes to falling for sensitive guys], deep[does this sound INFP anyone? lol!], and he's just a really sweet guy overall.
It kills me that I can't tell him how I feel about him though. I'm not sure how he'd take it. I'd miss him if we stopped being friends or if he got freaked out that I secretly harbor romantic feelings towards him. Right now he has no clue[I hide it pretty well according to one of our mutual friends who I just told yesterday] and I'm afraid that if I tell him he'd get freaked out. At the moment, he's single. And it's not just the fact that he *may* get freaked out, I also don't want him to get so "freaked out" that he stops being my friend.
I hate myself for hiding this from him but I've convinced myself that it's better than ruining everything.
Does anyone have any advice?
Sorry this was SOO long! Thanks everyone