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Sup ENTPs. So i know a SYMPTOM of being an ENTP is having difficulty opening up to people emotionally. I know I am like that at least...We really shouldn't flaunt it first of all, it is likely a defense mechanism we have created early on due to a specific event or events.
What im saying is, that this is a negative "trait" of the ENTP temperament. Do you wonder why you get that strange awkward type anxiety when your put in a situation that requires you to "open up"?
Im curious...How did you come to form this defense mechanism? The reason we formed it could be the root to our current personality type now, leading to a number of different ways to cope with the anxiety of emotional openness.
This "trait" most likely formed when we were young and innocent, and we opened up to someone who we respected greatly, and they poked fun at us for opening up...you see many ENTP girls running around? Only a handful. Could this be because girls are allowed to open up emotionally, more so than boys? At a young age,a girl opening up emotionally would be much more acceptable.
A young boy might open up, telling someone he loves something (only one word for love in english, maybe he didnt mean actual love), and then his mom or dad would tell him to not do that, its for girls. I saw this in action, with my little brother,who is 12 now. I feel bad for him when i think about this, like, a genuine feeling sad type feeling for him.
- He was doing something at age 3, imitating my sister, who was 9 at the time, and my sister and cousin made fun of him for doing it. It was something like, making a colorful sand sculpture at the NY state fair, or something more "girly". He was so fuuuuckin excited because he wanted to be like my sister, who he looks up to, almost as much as he does to me hah. My sister and my cousin started making fun of him for wanting to make a sand sculpture, and he just looked so fucking...distraught with sorrow......holy fuckin shit. Fuck, i cant think about this shit anymore, its too fuckin sad, and ironic. Such a vulnerable, innocent child, getting his happiness and emotional security torn from him....maybe like many of us.....
my brother is developing into a hyperactive, neurotic ENTP. Its painful to see him so confused, and i know its my fault too, something i didnt see back in my earlier days, same with my sister of course.
Like right now, i feel really uncomfortable writing this because my mind doesnt want me to meet that part of myself, resulting in the response of anxiety. So, i know how you feel, but whatever you feel, don't feel threatened. My parents always gave me shit when i resisted them exploiting me to gain security themselves, which i now know is abusive, but luckily i was really fuckin smart and introspective as a child, being the first born, having better resilience factors than my bro. He us more vulnerable and impulsive than i was
Tell me why you cant open up to people on an emotional level, IF you know why of course. We wouldnt last 1 second in a Carl Rogers type therapy session.
What im saying is, that this is a negative "trait" of the ENTP temperament. Do you wonder why you get that strange awkward type anxiety when your put in a situation that requires you to "open up"?
Im curious...How did you come to form this defense mechanism? The reason we formed it could be the root to our current personality type now, leading to a number of different ways to cope with the anxiety of emotional openness.
This "trait" most likely formed when we were young and innocent, and we opened up to someone who we respected greatly, and they poked fun at us for opening up...you see many ENTP girls running around? Only a handful. Could this be because girls are allowed to open up emotionally, more so than boys? At a young age,a girl opening up emotionally would be much more acceptable.
A young boy might open up, telling someone he loves something (only one word for love in english, maybe he didnt mean actual love), and then his mom or dad would tell him to not do that, its for girls. I saw this in action, with my little brother,who is 12 now. I feel bad for him when i think about this, like, a genuine feeling sad type feeling for him.
- He was doing something at age 3, imitating my sister, who was 9 at the time, and my sister and cousin made fun of him for doing it. It was something like, making a colorful sand sculpture at the NY state fair, or something more "girly". He was so fuuuuckin excited because he wanted to be like my sister, who he looks up to, almost as much as he does to me hah. My sister and my cousin started making fun of him for wanting to make a sand sculpture, and he just looked so fucking...distraught with sorrow......holy fuckin shit. Fuck, i cant think about this shit anymore, its too fuckin sad, and ironic. Such a vulnerable, innocent child, getting his happiness and emotional security torn from him....maybe like many of us.....
my brother is developing into a hyperactive, neurotic ENTP. Its painful to see him so confused, and i know its my fault too, something i didnt see back in my earlier days, same with my sister of course.
Like right now, i feel really uncomfortable writing this because my mind doesnt want me to meet that part of myself, resulting in the response of anxiety. So, i know how you feel, but whatever you feel, don't feel threatened. My parents always gave me shit when i resisted them exploiting me to gain security themselves, which i now know is abusive, but luckily i was really fuckin smart and introspective as a child, being the first born, having better resilience factors than my bro. He us more vulnerable and impulsive than i was
Tell me why you cant open up to people on an emotional level, IF you know why of course. We wouldnt last 1 second in a Carl Rogers type therapy session.