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Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like? How do you guys act alone? With people? With someone you like romantically?

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I'd like a closer best friend but I can't find anyone reliable so I go solo. I act differently depending on what group of friends I'm with. Back home I'm more outgoing and try to get out whenever I can. But when I hang out with my out of state friends I put off a different attitude towards everything and cover up my accent, I tend to just chill with them and I'm not as active. Back home I'll act like a sociopath if I'm bored enough.

Romantically, sentimental is the word to use I guess. Idk how to describe it I just like being close with someone but it takes me a while to get fully attached.
 

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How do you guys act alone?
- Usually studious: reading, reviewing, working; otherwise exercising or doing sth. to relax my mind.

With people?
- With 1 person: conversant, but also a very good listener.
- With groups: I usually fade into the background and become part of the scenery.

With someone you like romantically?
- None of your business :>
 

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Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like? How do you guys act alone? With people? With someone you like romantically?

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Haha, curious about INFJ men? :tongue:

I'm contemplative when alone. :mellow: I was surprised... one time a girl told me that I turned into "a statue" when I was in deep thought.

When I'm not working, studying, or exercising, I love reading, or daydreaming.

Sometimes I am very quiet when I'm in crowds or groupsand I look cold and unapproachable, because I am thinking deeply.

With people I like romantically, I like to joke around, have deep, meaningful conversations as well (I love talking philosophy/politics/sociology with people). Sometimes I combine the two. I guess the overall sense when I am with a woman is that "This woman understands me. I want to explore life with her."
 

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Alone, I tend to either play videogames or go on information binges. I do other things, of course, but the point is that they're not all that interesting.

With people it differs depending on the number of people/who I am with/etc. In one-on-one situations (or in small groups), I seem the most "animated". I will seem a little 'larger than life' in my enthusiastic movements/mannerisms. In a large group I am much calmer and quieter, but I will make a wise crack when I get an opportunity to do so.

With someone romantically... Well, to be honest I don't like talking about it. But that is all a subjective matter of self-esteem issues versus a preconceived notion of what I figure women think of me. But this is the internet, so I'll be honest.

I tend to become very cuddly. I will consistently shower my love interest with gifts and oftentimes when we are alone I will whisper to her how much she means to me. I enjoy holding hands and I'm okay with public displays of affection (kissing in public, giving piggyback rides, etc). I also tend to act "tough" when I'm around a love interest. Not in a sense that will intimidate people, no. I just want her to feel protected, I guess.
 

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Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like? How do you guys act alone? With people? With someone you like romantically?

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When I am alone I am either analyzing something or I am off in my own world listening to my MP3 player. Occassionally, I will watch a movie. (I am a movie buff, and I have a big collection.)

With people, I am easy going and sometimes goofy.

With someone I like romantically....

Well, at one point in time, I was shy. I will never be so again though.

I have never had a girlfriend, but I am absolutley girl crazy, so I would like one. I would actually like to get married and start a family someday.
 

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Aww you guys sound adorable! :laughing:
I'm about as adorable as kitten stew. It just sucks that I'm labelled as "clingy" or "obsessive" for feeling genuinely in love with the (few) girls I have ever been with.

It's also a good thing you didn't ask us about intimacy. I know in my case I can contrast "adorable" quite well here. ;)
 

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How are you male INFJs are like?
I'm very observant of silly inconsistencies, I rarely mention them online to avoid hurting peoples feelings. The above question makes no sense though so I've picked you up on it - I'd do this more in real life as you'd be able to see from my face and body language I wasn't being mean :happy:

How do you guys act alone?
- When alone outside I am either deadpan and lost in my thoughts or trying to work out what made that noise. The noise is usually in a tree or hedge and is caused by some kind of wildlife :happy:
- At home I am quietly browsing the internet, reading a book or occasionally playing my guitar, but no-one will ever see me like this as then I'd not be alone :crazy:

With people?
- One on one I listen and ask questions if I know that's what the other person needs/wants to continue with what they are saying (and I am interested) but I am usually quiet and rarely express my opinions even with friends I've known for years.
- In a small group others ask the questions quicker than me so I'm even quieter, but try to look interested.
- In a large group I give up trying to participate and often go back to deadpan lost in my head mode until I can prise someone away from the group to talk one on one with. Very rarely an interesting subject will come up and I'll scare everyone by getting very loud and enthusiastic. It's only happened once this year...

With someone you like romantically?
I assume you mean someone who reciprocates, in which case I can't answer having never been there. One day I'll actually be with someone who is interested and maybe I'll remember to come back and update this thread? :unsure:
 

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Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like? How do you guys act alone? With people? With someone you like romantically?

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Actually much more shy and reserved than on the *interwebs* lol...

When alone, I'm just usually quiet in my own little world.

With people, well depends on the people. When I'm over with certain family members I'm the life of the party and very "E"-like other times (with different people) I'm trying to conserve every once of energy I can.

With someone I like romantically, well everyone in the world can tell. My heart gushes out my eye sockets and I'm so relaxed yet not-relaxed at the same time. Content, but nervous. In a more "private" setting well, passion comes to mind. :)


That is of course if you're still interested to know since this is an older thread. lol
 
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Old thread, but why not? :p

Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like?
I'm fairly similar to how I act on the Internet, actually... Quiet, reserved and polite, but I'll get fired up if something catches my interest.

How do you guys act alone?
When I'm alone I have two states: the daydreaming state where I just kind of sit there with a dull look on my face with my head in the clouds, and my concentrated state where I'm focused intensely on some sort of task, usually reading or writing.

With people?
Around people that I don't know I'm polite but always a bit tense. In that situation I'll avoid talking to people as much as possible. If I'm with a group of friends I talk a lot more and joke around, though I'm still usually the quietest person in the room.

With someone you like romantically?
When I'm with someone I like romantically I'm way too self conscious of everything that I do. I end up saying stupid things, making bad jokes and just generally making an awkward mess of myself because I feel like any momentary pause in conversation will mean that it'll end. If we're able to make it past that first awkward stage though we usually are able to have some nice, deep conversations.
 

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Old thread, but why not? :p

Outside the interwebs... How are you male INFJs are like?
I'm fairly similar to how I act on the Internet, actually... Quit, reserved and polite, but I'll get fired up if something catches my interest.

How do you guys act alone?
When I'm alone I have two states: the daydreaming state where I just kind of sit there with a dull look on my face with my head in the clouds, and my concentrated state where I'm focused intensely on some sort of task, usually reading or writing.

With people?
Around people that I don't know I'm polite but always a bit tense. In that situation I'll avoid talking to people as much as possible. If I'm with a group of friends I talk a lot more and joke around, though I'm still usually the quietest person in the room.

With someone you like romantically?
When I'm with someone I like romantically I'm way too self conscious of everything that I do. I end up saying stupid things, making bad jokes and just generally making an awkward mess of myself because I feel like any momentary pause in conversation will mean that it'll end. If we're able to make it past that first awkward stage though we usually are able to have some nice, deep conversations.
... Are you me?
 

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Alone, I tend to either play videogames or go on information binges. I do other things, of course, but the point is that they're not all that interesting.
+1

If I have no available friends, wikipedia and google are acceptable substitute for a few nights. Plus Steam, Valve, and Source.

Recently I come across as a super-organized, super polite management person who's on top of everything but otherwise easygoing. Its a result of learning to work with business and jobs.

In romance ... https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=725165576437&l=254825875c should give you some idea of how squishy I am.
 
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I'm about as adorable as kitten stew. It just sucks that I'm labelled as "clingy" or "obsessive" for feeling genuinely in love with the (few) girls I have ever been with.

It's also a good thing you didn't ask us about intimacy. I know in my case I can contrast "adorable" quite well here. ;)
Haha.. I've read before and seen in real life that some INFJ men guard their masculinity and take issue with any labels like "cute, adorable, nice, sweet" etc. One guy I knew used to say cute is for teddy bears, another used to say sweet was for candy but I could call him chocolate.. lol. My real Dad is INFJ and he does not appreciate the fact that he is emotional and easily brought to tears.. in fact he despises it and avoids having a girlfriend because he doesn't want to be laughed at. Apparently being an emotional truck driver is not OK in his book.
 
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When I'm not juggling school, work, and various social- and religious-based obligations and activites, I spend my time fighting crime and, on particularly slow nights, discovering the cure for cancer and unwrapping the many mysteries surrounding modern-day science, specifically quantum mechanics and entanglement.

...What, you don't buy that?

Outside the interwebs, how are you male INFJs like?
Quite a bit different, actually. The Internet tends to bring out my fun-loving, goofy side, which is usually non-existent due to my terrible reaction time and general lack of spontaneous wit. And sometimes I "put on" different personas. Screwing around with writing and the ability to role-play on the Internet is a somewhat disturbing guilty pleasure of mine.

How do you guys act alone?
Total dead-pan. I laugh and crack jokes a lot with my friends, but when I'm alone, my sense of humor and outward display of emotion tends to evaporate. Oh sure, I still find things funny; my face and body language just doesn't register it. If someone were to watch me while I'm alone (a terrifying, paranoid thought that has plagued my mind on multiple occasions), he'd probably think, "Geez...what's eatin' this guy?"

With people?
I'm very slow to warm up to people whom I don't know very well. Bursting onto the social scene with humor and the more quirky aspects of my personality are both no-nos, in my book. If I have an acqaintance or close friend to pull me out of my shell, I'll cautiously but surely test the waters at my own stubborn pace. This tendency of mine has given people mixed signals and contrasting impressions of what I'm like.

With someone you like romantically?
Can't comment on this one, I'm afraid.
 

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How are you male INFJs are like?
I am very focused, kind of tend to ignore people and pretend they don't exist for the most part. Always thinking about something. Not necessarily deep, just something. Maybe observations, the past, future, or making plans. I would imagine I come off as quite cold to most people initially.

How do you guys act alone?
When alone I'm kind of silly sometimes. I play video games, listen to music, sometimes I even sing. Stuff I won't do in public or even with friends unless I'm super drunk.

With people?
Depends on the situation. I'm generally pretty open to people once I feel somewhat comfortable around them. It can happen pretty quickly. Otherwise, I tend to listen more and not really say anything unless it seems somewhat substantial.

With someone you like romantically?

Kinda the best. I love to cuddle, make them feel better, do just about anything to make them smile. Give them space if they need it, but let them know I'm always there for them if necessary too. I like to be in constant contact, but it depends on the individual. This one girl I went on a date with likes her space. We went on a date friday, I didn't text her until Monday, and then she said she was busy until Thursday so I'm not even messaging her until then. Told her that's how it was going to go too. Very sweet, usually too much so. Love physical contact. Cuddling, kisses, massages, whatever.
 
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