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This one looks for emotional maturity, intelligence, honesty/directness, kindness (not just to me, but to everyone), open-mindedness, independence, and an obvious enjoyment of being in my company.

I'm sure in addition to general compatibility I am all of these things.

I have friends who seem ENFP but I could never date them for reasons outside of personality, nothing bad, just circumstance.

Hmm.. I can't think of many more questions.

What is the personality type of any companions you have had?
 

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Play to your strengths. Nothing is guaranteed, but your more likely to be happy in the long term being confident in yourself.

INFPs and ENFPs communicate easily - we speak the same language and there isn't a lot of misunderstanding. (Sometimes NFPs are a little *too* conflict avoidant and start internalizing everything, but it just takes some self-training to communicate when something is bothering them....even if they aren't 100% sure what the problem is).

INFPs and ENFPs share the same high energy and enthusiasm for creativity and novelty. (Just be careful not to let this run too wild or you'll end up with more projects and ideas than you can ever finish). This is a good one to establish a connection with an ENFP, though. :) Even "grown up" ENFPs like a playmate to be stupid with on occasion.

INFPs are understanding and sympathetic. ENFPs are likewise supportive and inspiring (when healthy).

One big piece of advice, though.... ENFPs are remarkably oblivious to flirtation directed at them... If you find one you really connect with and like, be sure to give hints that you are interested. Tease her gently about dating, lightly touch her (and be aware that if she disengages, she's probably not comfortable with it). Give her time to process the idea and consider you in the role of boyfriend. If she takes to the idea, it'll be OBVIOUS. But be patient and give it a couple of days.

The INFPs I've known have been very casual and easy to joke around with - so relax! The worst that happens is you make an awesome friend instead of a girlfriend.
 

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I find that INFPs are like kindred spirits of us ENFPs. Some of my dearest friends are INFPs. A pair of NFPs have almost a supernatural understanding of one another. I find that I just "get" INFPs. I have a good INFP friend I met online at age 10, and sometimes we'd go for a year without communication, especially as we got older and started college, etc. But no matter when we reconnected it was like there wasn't a minute gone by. I met her for the first time IRL a year ago and it was like we had been in that state forever it was so seamless.

So I am sure if you find the right ENFP gal, you will find that you can almost communicate without words.

But @Alysaria is right, we are extremely oblivious when guys are hitting on us (we just assume everyone is as chatty and nice to everyone as we are!!), so you need to actually be direct and make your intentions known. Otherwise we might just throw you in the friend zone. However, even though we are oblivious to flirtation, I find that we are also masters of disguise when we are attracted to a guy. I tend to clam up and lose all powers of speech when I am around a guy I am interested in. I also sometimes act really shy and downplay any of my normal gregarious behaviors.

As for what we are attracted to or look for in a mate. I think it's not necessarily type-dependent, though I think in general we look for mates who are intelligent, compassionate, and have a sense of humor. I'm usually most attracted to well-educated introverts - I find extroverts make me expend too much energy and make me "high", whereas introverts balance me. I feel most comfortable with other intuitives (I crave that deeper level of understanding), though my boyfriend is a borderline sensor (IsTJ). Also a guy who's not afraid of a little PDA. I'm not talking about anything PG-13 here. I want a guy who wants to hold my hand and gives me random kisses for no reason.

I'm also kind of old fashioned in that I want a guy who will open doors and pull our chairs for me....showing a little chivalry you can't go wrong with a hopelessly romantic ENFP. Just remember not to go overboard. We are also fiercely opposed to being controlled and are generally independent.

Sometimes I find myself reminding my SO that I can actually do things for myself - example, we're cooking dinner (I'm 5'4 and he's 6'4) and I grab a stool to reach a high cupboard for something and he gets upset, like why didn't I ask him to get it for me. But to me, even though I know he is doing it because he cares and wants to help me and be a gentleman, it's more of a pain to spell out what I need and where it is, and it's much more practical for me to just do it myself!
 

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We all look for this...

[I remember this posting elsewhere, but it's a true story.]
 

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Well, as far as I am concerned, (besides the qualities mentioned by Chimeric) I want someone who is willing to go along with my crazy ideas (and come up with their own) and who has a great sense of humour. Also they should be willing to try new things and we should be able to talk about anything.
 

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What is the personality type of any companions you have had?
INFP! :D I'm sure you won't have to look very hard, just look into meeting new people through activities you already like. I tend to have a lot of overlap in interests with my INFP friends, anyway. :)


Just be your lovable self and put the next ENFP you're attracted to outside the friendzone from the start.

Well, as far as I am concerned, (besides the qualities mentioned by Chimeric) I want someone who is willing to go along with my crazy ideas (and come up with their own) and who has a great sense of humour. Also they should be willing to try new things and we should be able to talk about anything.
Quoted for extreme truth.


Also a fantastic tip, if you can swing this. xD
 

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I dated an INTJ for a while, and while I know we're "supposed to be" a good match, it really didn't work well. My best advice to you is to not be a "tour guide". In other words, don't act like you are gracing her with your knowledge and presence. Something I personally find very attractive is a good listener who is open to learning new things and admitting that he's can be wrong sometimes. Confidence is attractive but arrogance is not. Don't give superlative advice unless it's asked for. A sense of humor is also very very important to almost all ENFPs, I believe. We need to be introduced to new things, and if you are willing to experience these new things along with us (instead of for us) we will love you forever. You're an INFP, and I have gotten along with almost every INFP I've ever met, so I see no reason for you to have a problem at all. :)
 

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Be down-to-earth and funny, be willing to play crazy games and entertain wild ideas. C:

I for one, really hate it when people are condescending towards me, that instantly puts me off. I don't really like when boys try to brag or show off-- it makes me feel uncomfortable.
 

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This one looks for emotional maturity, intelligence, honesty/directness, kindness (not just to me, but to everyone), open-mindedness, independence, and an obvious enjoyment of being in my company.
This is exactly what I look for. Kindness is a big one. Additionally, I have to be able to hold long, interesting, intellectual conversations with the person, but maybe that's just me.
 

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I look for an ISTJ or an INTJ persona on a male. ENFP on a female. I will accept a female that shares traits of both since I get along so well with both.
 

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Intellectual (a smart, savvy, independent, and educated man comes to mind), articulate, witty, confident (but not arrogant), kind, especially nice to animals and small children, affectionate, polite, takes care of himself and his surroundings, and has good manners which usually also entails he had a good upbringing. Finally, I expect my partner to have some kind of gift or creative talent that separates him from the rest.

I find myself repulsed by men that are way more extroverted than myself and men that are way more sensitive than myself.

I like it when a man agrees to accompany me to a cocktail party and doesn't complain about it. Usually what'll happen is I'll waltz around with him by my side, introducing him to people (showing him off) for a while but then I'll expect him to navigate on his own and find himself a comfortable niche where he can talk and entertain people and engage in conversation. If he needs help, I'll try to introduce him to people that I think he'll get along with or I'll point out some similarities ("Meet Joe, he's a huge Star Trek fan, too!") or spark a conversation among a group. I don't want a puppy dog that's permanently attached to my hip because, being an ENFP and all, I have to make my rounds and mingle with everyone.

And I'm not a lazy person - in fact, I'm VERY active and independent - so I expect my man to be active, independent, and have a life of his own as well. Lazy, lethargic men who schlep around and waste time, don't exercise, and generally lacking joie de vivre are a huge turn off.
 

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Honestly the three main things I look for in any guy I date:
1. Funny
2. Loyal/Honest/Sincere
3. Open Minded

I can't be in a relationship who is stiff and boring. I need humor in my life and I love it when any guy I'm dating gets me and knows how to make me laugh and cheer me up.
There is nothing more I despise in life than fake and dishonest people. I need someone who I know is sincere and honest as well as someone who is loyal and I know will have my back if I ever needed it.
Third, I like guys who aren't shut off to the supernatural/faith/mythology. I like to explore a lot of things and I need someone who will be willing to explore them as well and have fun doing that with me, instead of being small minded about things I"m interested in.
 
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