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How can I get an ENFP to have a good first impression of me?

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Okay, so I'm an ISTP.

I've been talking to this girl for a while (a long while), and we both know each other through friends, but we haven't met each other yet. I tried typing her myself based on the things she says and what I've been told about her, and I thought she was an ESFP, but I got her to do a personality test in a non-suspicious way, and it turns out she's an ENFP.

Is there anything I can try and do to make her first impression a really good one? I think I would like to get to know her better.. although I'm not too sure.. and she keeps pestering me to meet her.

She says she likes my personality... which is alright I guess.. but I just don't want to come across as too distant and cold, even though I have no idea to do that.. Above all I'm really scared (but I doubt that's got anything to do with MBTI types!).

So, ENFPs, what's the first thing you notice about someone when you meet them for the first time? Especially an ISTP, if you can remember your first impression of one.
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Hey, Wellf! Alright, I'ma do what I can.

I never typed people before and didn't know anything about types before finding this site. It's always been simple to tell who's an extrovert and who isn't, but that doesn't influence me in any way, but you're doing things a little differently.

She likes your personality? You should be surprised at yourself man! A good chunk of work is out of the way. Don't think about making a good impression. We're not zoo animals... Y-You're gonna finish that banana, right?


Just be honest, speak with confidence, and pay attention to her. Listen and respond to what she says and use that smooth brain of yours to probe what she loves and likes. Don't think about how cold or distant you may come of, alright? Meet up with her and do something simple for your first time out. Make up jokes no matter how bad they are (it's the effort), and don't take things too seriously.

You'll be good if you focus on being as honest and attentive. A good bit of compassion thrown in there won't hurt either. There isn't any pressure. Oh, and guess what? Got a secret she doesn't even know yet. You're awesome, but, you don't have to tell her. Have fun man and I really hope I helped.
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