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How can I get an ENFP to have a good first impression of me?

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Okay, so I'm an ISTP.

I've been talking to this girl for a while (a long while), and we both know each other through friends, but we haven't met each other yet. I tried typing her myself based on the things she says and what I've been told about her, and I thought she was an ESFP, but I got her to do a personality test in a non-suspicious way, and it turns out she's an ENFP.

Is there anything I can try and do to make her first impression a really good one? I think I would like to get to know her better.. although I'm not too sure.. and she keeps pestering me to meet her.

She says she likes my personality... which is alright I guess.. but I just don't want to come across as too distant and cold, even though I have no idea to do that.. Above all I'm really scared (but I doubt that's got anything to do with MBTI types!).

So, ENFPs, what's the first thing you notice about someone when you meet them for the first time? Especially an ISTP, if you can remember your first impression of one.
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If she asks you what you think about x topic, give her details. Do NOT just say "yeah that's ok". Say what you like or don't and why, give her details and stuff to talk about. We're a curious bunch that like to learn new things. If you have an opinion on something, (that's not a judgement of her own opinion on something), then say it.
Ie - you're at the zoo and she starts going on about how giraffes kind of look like dragons, given the head shape etc. Roll with it, say how you can totally see that, then pick another animal and say you think it looks like some other fantasy creature, or ask her what this other animal looks like to her.
Roll with the crazy tangents and bring them back to topics you can give interesting data on. and encourage the random ideas.
Lol and yes, if all else fails, random ice cream or "hey let's go check that thing out!"
I don't know if this is true for all ENFP's, but I LOVE random fun surprises.
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