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How can I get an ENFP to have a good first impression of me?

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Okay, so I'm an ISTP.

I've been talking to this girl for a while (a long while), and we both know each other through friends, but we haven't met each other yet. I tried typing her myself based on the things she says and what I've been told about her, and I thought she was an ESFP, but I got her to do a personality test in a non-suspicious way, and it turns out she's an ENFP.

Is there anything I can try and do to make her first impression a really good one? I think I would like to get to know her better.. although I'm not too sure.. and she keeps pestering me to meet her.

She says she likes my personality... which is alright I guess.. but I just don't want to come across as too distant and cold, even though I have no idea to do that.. Above all I'm really scared (but I doubt that's got anything to do with MBTI types!).

So, ENFPs, what's the first thing you notice about someone when you meet them for the first time? Especially an ISTP, if you can remember your first impression of one.
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That's what I'm worried about, the conversation being awkward.

The thing that annoys me the most is that she seems to go off on tangents quite a lot, and the conversation just ends up being really weird and it doesn't flow at all and I don't feel like putting any effort into it, so I tend to just say that I'm tired and then I can escape the conversation, but I obviously can't do that when we meet.

It's really hard to force body language, but I guess I can try. I tend to be fairly relaxed and just nonchalantly go with the flow most of the time, but I get called distant a lot, so I'm just worried that there wont be a flow to go along with, if you know what I mean?
Oh, I know how sensitive she can be.
Apparently I've already made loads of 'cutting remarks'. I'm completely oblivious to them...

To be honest, I don't really know what I want from her... I would like to be friends at the very least, but I think it's my inferior Fe that sets me back from going further. Then again, she finds it really cute/funny.

Going along with 'crazy ideas' sounds okay I guess. I'm getting a feeling that it's going to drain me so much though.
Okay; don't mention looking orange and buy ice cream. Got it. Any particular flavour of ice cream?
Thanks for that, helped quite a bit. I'm fairly good at paying attention (as from what i know ENFPs like to do their fair share of talking), I just hope I don't unintentionally say something that will hurt her..

Whilst I'm at it, is there anything that ISTPs - or any type for that matter - unknowingly do that really annoy you?
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