Hi guys, my friend is an ISFJ who is currently being controlled by his family. They passively control him and turn him into literally a robot. Now he is 17 and all he does is eat, sleep, rest, study and spend time with family, that is, for real, all he does. I met him at June and he has no friends at all because all his friends see him as boring, blank and has no personality or individuality at all. He just stick with whoever let him stick with despite that they didn't consider much of him, like an dispensable follower. Not a single one person want to get close to him since they believe he is what he is showing, well some did but that is solely because he is hot but they get bored eventually.
However, he has his own feelings, needs, wants and desires. He didn't validate most of them until I come and talk with him about it. He has buried them all under his family's demands from big things such as what he wants to study or what hobbies he has passion for to small things like what he wants to eat or hanging out with friends. He sacrifices everything for his family! He has no feelings that he is being a victim though he agrees with me that his family is controlling him, he wants to live as who he is and he is changing to achieve it. But the thing is everything is still the same, well he does open up a little and hang out with me and the group more but that just it, he is still his family's puppet. I don't know what the cause is, may be he is stuck in the rut of doing the same things for his family, may be he just can't *hurt* them (it obviously not hurting them if he wants to live how he wants) or may be he is just too weak-willed?
Are all ISFJ so nice, accepting and then live a meaningless life like this, sorry I'm an ESFP but if you live a life serving others without it even being your own choices then you should start your next life asap. I know another ISFJ whose father is a cheater that bring his new wife home to live and treat everyone bad but the ISFJ still accepts it and obeys despite feeling hurt and other negative emotions.
So is there anyway that I can help him? He is very important to me and I want him to change and enjoy life so please help me! Thank you very much for reading this post and helping me.