Weird... that's exactly what I intended to say, because it's true and I think she'd like to hear it...say how you are sad to see her go. Tell she really mad a difference at the company
Yes, I think I will if there is no chance before... have to get all my guts together though...Go for broke.On the last day ask her outright.
Better to have loved and lost than have never loved at all... Emotional pain is part of the beautiful dance of life, even if it doesn't feel good, like you said, you'll have cleared the air, and that's important.Ok, this is the real hard way but I think I will go it. Damn I will be nervous as hell..... it can hurt painfully but then we both will know clearly what's going on, no doubts or misunderstandings. Anyway there is just a lot more to win than to lose!
Thanks a lot!
This is exactly what i do!!! I love debating with people.. till it comes to the person i care about.. i'm far to worried to hurt their feelings...JoJo nailed it! I am totally this way as well. I can talk to anyone but the person I have a crush on and then I become all shy, awkward, I over-analyze my conversations with that person and I blush like mad in their presence. If its even any way mutual forget it...I am even more a mess and a bundle of nerves. I come across as maybe even not liking that person to them and to others. That's the red flag.
--I day-dream a lot and smile more than usual as well.
--I am especially helpful to that person...more than I usually do with others.
--I tend not to disagree with that person...can't debate them too well as I am afraid to offend them. Usually I love intellectual debate and like to be challenged so this is another huge sign.
--I can't make coherant sentences or they are short and sweet...normally I have the gift of the gab and can talk anyones ear off.
--I become a super introvert. I may even avoid them a bit when I see them...its cause I am nervous and afraid to go up to them.
Noooo, don't let her go without saying something!!! Although I'm married and it's been a while since I was single I've always like a sweet, gentle and cute approach but I would do it in person. Perhaps catch her when she's not surrounded by people when it's quiet. She may be wondering why you haven't asked her out yet and when I really liked someone, I would get nervous as hell, blush while becoming really awkward and shy but it was a sign that I liked you!!! We're also very good at reading people so she may be picking up on those subtle cues and wondering the same thing you are: Does he like me?There's this ENFJ girl at my work, she's been there for about 3 years now and I always had a crush on her.
Now she's quitting the job in a few weeks and I feel the strong urge to ask her for her number or something, but I really don't know how.
I noticed when we had some short but nice contact that she's around all the day while on other days I barely see her. I also noticed her getting silent sometimes when I'm close around and acting rather awkward although she LOVES to talk and to act positive with people and making them feel good. In pessimistic times I thought my presence is unpleasant to her, but when I follow my intuition (which works much better for me than thinking) I definetely sense shy-ness, which actually doesn't fit at all to her personality when acting with others.
I feel so extremely empathic to her like I never felt to someone other before. I always get this strange change in feel when we have contact, and then I realize its her feeling exactly the same. As if she injected them straight into me... sounds a bit weird but maybe it's the Fe -> Fi magic. It definetely feels like magic.
There lies the problem: we both feel like you described and therefore hardly go onto another on a private base. In addition to this, she is always with someone else in her breaks so I only have a real small chance to catch her alone. And when I do she acts like she doesn't see me until she realizes that I see her. But then she's nice.
How can I ask her? Should I wait for a direct encounter? Should I write her an email or Skype her? What should I say/write? Or would you say she doesn't like me and I'm running after a pink elephant and should quit it?
I also have the feeling that she reads me like an open book, so she might know how I feel about her. But this could be too presuming... I don't know.
I'm quite anxious, but when she leaves she is gone. And when she does without me having asked her to keep contact I would beat myself up for that for the rest of my life.
I'm really grateful for your input!
Since I become such an introvert with those I really like when they show sincere reciprocation toward me it kinda leaves me speechless for a time.