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Hi, I know this question's been asked a bunch of times already but I still wanna give it a try based on the situation I'm in. I met this guy on a dating app, the first couple of weeks I noticed the amount of questions (some of which are strange and too personal) he's been asking me which I found weird at first til i found out eventually that's he's an ENTP-A. He started flirting with me and calling me ~babe~ and all so I figured it was his way of taking control of the situation, so I just ride along with it til now, especially when he's teasing me or poking fun at me and all. He rarely opens up, and he knows more about me than I know about him but I try to be more understanding in that area cause i know it's not easy for them to open up and talk about feelings in general, but there are times where he drops subtle hints about what's he's going through especially when's stressed about work or family.
Our first date was interesting if not too awkward, he acted all cool and not too engaged the way he sat but he kept asking questions about myself still and was looking intently, I tried to keep up with him and made him laugh a bunch of times especially cause i'm really awkward irl which he finds cute I guess. After that meeting, we kept in contact but i noticed he started to withdraw, unlike the first few weeks that we've talked he usually messages in the middle of the day and at night but now he seems to just talk to me when he gets home from work. He says goodnight and then when I reply that's the time he starts the conversation...which I find odd cause I don't know if he's passing the time or not. I try not to be to clingy, so I just let him initiate most of the conversations in case he values his space that much but I do try to strike up a conversation from time to time so he wouldn't think that I wasn't interested.
What bothered me is that he hasn't really formally asked me to go out on a second date or even hang out with him again but instead, he tries to find a way to get to me to ask him to meet with him. For an instance, I told him I was in this area during lunch (near the place where he worked) to get something from a friend and told me that I should've told him that I was going there.....another time would be is that I was going through something and he noticed that even if i tried not to show it, and then he told me that If I wanted to talk, I could just go to that area near his office and said he'll be there.
My office is roughly a 20-25 minute walk away from where he worked, so eventually I did ask him to have lunch with me on his birthday last week and he seems to appreciate the fact i bought him a slice of cake. lol. Even if he said i shouldn't have bothered buying him a gift, he kept thanking me after and was being all cutesy and shit. But anyway, we had a good laugh, and had a really good time (at least that's how i see it) we just talked about the most random things, he was also trying to get me to tell him why I sad and all, after some time I noticed he was getting touchy and playful, he just poked my belly for no reason (wtf), and then started touching my knees, he was asking and was trying figure out the areas where I'm ticklish, and I knew he was watching how I'd react whenever he does these things. So the whole thing got me more confused.
His inconsistency in terms of initiating conversations and sudden withdrawal bothers me, i try not to demand for his attention. Especially cause I'm naturally the type who always want to talk to person I'm interested in. So thereeeee....he's really mysterious and it's quite impossible to read him and his intentions, I know I'm probably not the only woman he's flirting with given that he's still on that dating app so I don't know what to think. But at the very least, I'm glad he still messages me most days even if it's only in the evening and tries to have a conversation with me.
Let me know your thoughts!
Our first date was interesting if not too awkward, he acted all cool and not too engaged the way he sat but he kept asking questions about myself still and was looking intently, I tried to keep up with him and made him laugh a bunch of times especially cause i'm really awkward irl which he finds cute I guess. After that meeting, we kept in contact but i noticed he started to withdraw, unlike the first few weeks that we've talked he usually messages in the middle of the day and at night but now he seems to just talk to me when he gets home from work. He says goodnight and then when I reply that's the time he starts the conversation...which I find odd cause I don't know if he's passing the time or not. I try not to be to clingy, so I just let him initiate most of the conversations in case he values his space that much but I do try to strike up a conversation from time to time so he wouldn't think that I wasn't interested.
What bothered me is that he hasn't really formally asked me to go out on a second date or even hang out with him again but instead, he tries to find a way to get to me to ask him to meet with him. For an instance, I told him I was in this area during lunch (near the place where he worked) to get something from a friend and told me that I should've told him that I was going there.....another time would be is that I was going through something and he noticed that even if i tried not to show it, and then he told me that If I wanted to talk, I could just go to that area near his office and said he'll be there.
My office is roughly a 20-25 minute walk away from where he worked, so eventually I did ask him to have lunch with me on his birthday last week and he seems to appreciate the fact i bought him a slice of cake. lol. Even if he said i shouldn't have bothered buying him a gift, he kept thanking me after and was being all cutesy and shit. But anyway, we had a good laugh, and had a really good time (at least that's how i see it) we just talked about the most random things, he was also trying to get me to tell him why I sad and all, after some time I noticed he was getting touchy and playful, he just poked my belly for no reason (wtf), and then started touching my knees, he was asking and was trying figure out the areas where I'm ticklish, and I knew he was watching how I'd react whenever he does these things. So the whole thing got me more confused.
His inconsistency in terms of initiating conversations and sudden withdrawal bothers me, i try not to demand for his attention. Especially cause I'm naturally the type who always want to talk to person I'm interested in. So thereeeee....he's really mysterious and it's quite impossible to read him and his intentions, I know I'm probably not the only woman he's flirting with given that he's still on that dating app so I don't know what to think. But at the very least, I'm glad he still messages me most days even if it's only in the evening and tries to have a conversation with me.
Let me know your thoughts!
