I do not understand this narcissistical view some people have of INTJ's. My INTJ brother is rather balanced there. He doesn't give me pats on the back every 30 seconds altering it with half-assed comments like "well done, man," but he's fully capable of seeing whether I know a bit more about a subject than him or not. And if it has anything to do with "being better" than him at something he rationalize it with "because you have more experience than me." He doesn't come to me for advice when it comes to relationships and his kid, and that's pretty obvious why. Only when he's drunk can he spew a bunch of feelings and "blah" about his relationship and his kid and so on- on to me, but I mean, it's more in the lines of "getting shit off your chest". It's only when I'm in a bad mood, like having a really bad day, that I can say stupid shit to him like "You're not doing it right. You should be doing this instead," and that's something he don't like. I know this in the back of my mind but I can' thelp myself sometimes when I'm at my worst. I swear, he's more INFP than me sometimes, and I am more INTJ than him - it just depends on our mood and environment.
Ps. He actually called me right now and said "I'm gonna drop by your house at around 5pm, you're gonna have to teach me how to make a website."