Are you expecting a song and dance every day?Long story short, he knows I've been in love with him for a couple of years and he's said he loves me too, although I doubt he knows what he's talking about (he never mentioned it after that).
Did you ever stop to think that because you shot him down; he stopped being open with his affections? Why would you shoot down somebody you love, and then expect them to keep trying? I wouldn't waste my time. I'd have other things to do.although he has tried to be suggestive with me and I shot him down because it seemed more like his natural flirtatious manner than something serious; and it hurt my feelings that he would try that on me despite knowing I had feelings for him
So why did you shoot him down?Honestly, I think we're both perfect for each other.
So... you're not perfect for each other then?the fact that we don't share the same core values. (I consider that a very important thing, whereas he is more floaty and likes to think he can get by in just any situation. This belief of his is proving untrue as he is progressing through life, as was inevitable. And he can't wrap his head around it.)
Uwotm8?I would very much like to be valued for a change, after all the time and energy I've expended on him. But I try to at least not act like a fool, if I must think like one. So I bide my time immersing my heart in other things like my career and my friends.
Then why did you shoot him down?even though sometimes I'm sure I can't be with anyone but him.
What does it matter what he thinks when you always convince yourself he's not serious about what he does?Is there any chance that he actually might see me in a more serious light somewhere in the future? Or am I doomed to be his 'friend' and pick up after him whenever he pleases?
Because you shot him down - he figured you didn't want the attention.On the other hand, he barely ever pays me attention. I share his troubles but he doesn't share mine--I thought ENFPs were all happy and puppy-like when they were in love?
Why are you even trying to help him? Does he want your help? Did he ask for it? You've been giving him all this "help" and it's not been appreciated, so why would you then do it again, expecting different results?2. How do I help him out when he needs a friend, without giving him the idea that he is entitled to my time despite having rejected me, so to speak?
That's what you think, doesn't make it true.I love this guy immensely, and he's always better off for following my advice.
This is all your problem, he didn't ask you to do any of this. Your pride is something he's not thinking about, he never wanted it compromised in the first place-- which is why he respected your apparent need for space when you shot him down.There are quite a few other guys who are much more deserving of the attention I find myself showering on this one. I don't enjoy being hung up like this; I have my pride.
This is your problem. Not his. He didn't put you in this situation... you did.And I can't figure out how to balance my love with my pride when they both seem to be opposing each other.