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Okay, so I am very energetic peppy, emotional guy. Therefore, I am basically the opposite of 5's. I have a hard time dealing with 5's because are so cold, unemotional and logical. How do I get along with you guys?
How do I get along with you cold, cold people
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It's just wierd because I can't read you guys like I can other people. You are so unemotional that you are like robots. It's hard to guage how to act around you socially
Just engage anyway, even if you aren't getting the normal social cues. I find it very hard to initiate conversations, even if I want to talk.
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Yeah, but every time I do that, you guy's just look so annoyed like you want to be left alone. I feel like I'm being looked at as a nuisance.
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Just be yourself and see where it takes you, I don't always outwardly show my true feelings towards somebody, there's a good chance they like you and you aren't able to read their signals(IE actually responding to you over a simple yes/no).
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Usually we do want to be left alone. The best way to make us talk is to figure out what we're interested in, and then talk about that. Small talk will get you nowhere. Be interesting, appreciate our intelligence, and above all, don't probe (I can't stand nosy people).
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Yeah, I know what you mean. It would almost be better IRL if someone would give me hint that I was dealing with an INTP 5 like yourself before I actually met them in real life lol. No offense, but I approach you guys and I'm just like, "What crawled up that guy's ass and died?" Luckily now that I have studied MBTI and enneagram I take a much more open-minded approach. But yeah, sometimes you guys can confuse the hell out of me.
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I actually really like gregarious people.
It's just that my brain forgets to notify my face about it.
It's just that my brain forgets to notify my face about it.
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Well, as much as I'd like everybody to know exactly how to deal with each other, I'm not about to go and tell somebody I'm a Type 5 INTP in my introduction...might as well be a goodbye if they don't know what it is, or even if they do. :shocked:
I generally get along with INFPs, well, at least the ones I know, I only know one ENFP and we're not particularly close, you just have to make sure you don't take anything we say as a personal insult, we're not saying it at you, only at what you said if we happen to correct you.
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lol, no shit I don't get along with you guys. I constantly probe for info. My Ne naturally makes me curious about people, so I ask a lot of questions. It is my way of trying to be friendly. I did this with an INTJ 5 one time, and he said, "What are you the fucking FBI? You don't need to know all of that shit!" I was like, "Fuck you dude!", and we almost got in a fight.
So basically, the best way to approach a 5 is to speak to them about intelligent concepts huh?
You're assuming that the appearance of coldness =not liking you + having an actual cold nature. Having detachement as a virtue doesn't mean that the person is glacial inside or has no feelings. And even if you're dealing with genuinely cold people, their lack of expressiveness doesn't mean that they have a problem with you. 5s tend to be extreme withdrawing creatures, and are unlikely to waste their time with someone who they don't respect/like. As long as you don't come off as intrusive and unsubstantial, chances are that they're not bothered by you if they willingly keep you company. It's up to you to learn their "language", unexpressive as it may be, if you want to befriend them so that you don't see annoyance where there is none.
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I can't tell if you're trolling or not because fives are DEFINITELY not unemotional.
Just because they aren't open books doesn't mean they don't have feelings. Maybe they don't like because you are treating them like robots, which is abusive to anyone.
Just because they aren't open books doesn't mean they don't have feelings. Maybe they don't like because you are treating them like robots, which is abusive to anyone.
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I know that I can't take it personal, it's just the way that the 5's naturally act. It's just very hard to get used to, that's all.
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Okay, so if that's the case, then how do I know when a 5 is just being themselves and when they really are annoyed by me, don't like me, are or angered by me?
I know that I can't take it personal, it's just the way that the 5's naturally act. It's just very hard to get used to, that's all.
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Okay, so if that's the case, then how do I know when a 5 is just being themselves and when they really are annoyed by me, don't like me, are or angered by me?
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Best way to get along with a 5w6 : Be open minded to anything, be willing to support what you say, don't take things we say personally(you'd know if we really didn't like you....lol), bring food(who doesn't like food?).
Ask. I know I would answer truthfully.
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But how? What specifically would a 5 do to let me know that they don't like me?
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So I literally just ask them point blank, "Do you hate my guts?"
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'I'm a bad person: a very awful person. I often disregard people's feelings and say hurtful comments:
If that's true, it's no wonder why a Five wouldn't like you.
If that's true, it's no wonder why a Five wouldn't like you.
Lol. What an icebreaker. You should try it.
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