This might be a stupid question but in talking to a penpal INFJ I made a subtle joke about dating, just to test the waters and she said she wasn't dating. If that's a personal preference, I totally get that. What I'm wondering is if INFJs typically take a very slow approach to dating or put walls up initially to make sure the intending pursuer is honest in his/her intentions (or honest in general!). I've dated SPs and SJs and the initial hurdles are low (way lower for SPs, lol). Thoughts?