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Bugger off. I don’t want your sympathy, brain slurper. 🤪
Don't knock her for that. Brains are actually tasty. Well okay, NOT human brains; cow and pig brains. They're like scrambled eggs, except brownish instead of yellow.
 

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Bugger off. I don’t want your sympathy, brain slurper. 🤪
Bugger off? I brought out my best feels for you! got them out of the ziplock bag and everything! Geez.
 

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There was a first time tales thread floating around awhile back.
 

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Bugger off? I brought out my best feels for you! got them out of the ziplock bag and everything! Geez.
Am vewy sowwy. Want a hug? Actually I’m not giving you a choice. I’m not letting go until you stop giving me sympathy. 🤗
 

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Am vewy sowwy. Want a hug? Actually I’m not giving you a choice. I’m not letting go until you stop giving me sympathy. 🤗
Sympathy blackmail. Respect.

um- ok you can let go now.
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Sympathy blackmail. Respect.

um- ok you can let go now.
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That was too easy. Btw, “bugger off” is endearing where I’m from. Though I shouldn’t speak in dialect on an international forum. :oops:
 

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Ooooh. Yeah I forget also sometimes until someone goes, 'what the heck does that mean?'
 

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I wasn't saying it doesn't matter as much for female perpetrators. I was just referring to society's attitudes about it.

Also, did you ever notice the double standards for regular men versus rock stars? There's quite a few rock stars that were at least in their 20's when they fucked 14/15 year old girls. But people don't care if their heroes do that, while they'll ostracize any common man for doing that.
Yes for example Elvis. For me listenening to music written by people who I know has done that is like eating dinner from a stinky dish full of shit, honestly. I know some people would probably say don't throw thebaby out with the dishwater, but I just can't take it.
 
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19 and 15 isn't that terrible. It could be a lot worse. The age of consent where I live is 18, but I believe in allowing a 17 year old to consent to an 18 year old at least, maybe even a 16 year old with a 19 year old. I actually think its wrong for an 18 year old to be labelled a sex offender for having consentual sex with a 17 year old, and that the 18 year old is the real victim in that case. Hell, when I was 18 I didn't even realize how much trouble I could get in for that, so I would've been a victim of the justice system imo.
I was just turned 16 for my first time and my x was about 21. I don't think was too young but I think he was too old and today I regret not having a boyfriend my own age, the relationship was A-symnertrical.16 years old is a leagal age here, but even though the body is developed enough it doesn't meen the brain is before in the early 20's for girls.
 
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I was just turned 16 for my first time and my x was about 21. I don't think was too young but I think he was too old and today I regret not having a boyfriend my own age, the relationship was A-symnertrical.16 years old is a leagal age here, but even though the body is developed enough it doesn't meen the brain is before in the early 20's for girls.
So, iyo is it wrong of me that my age range for women is so liberal? I'm 43, but I guess I'm open to women in the age range 23-63. I figure their brains are pretty much fully developed by 23. Btw, my only relationship so far was an ldr with a woman who's 20 years older than me. If I would've been picky about age, then I never would've had my only relationship, so I don't really have regrets. We only met in person once, and the most meaningful thing we did was cuddle, and it was beautiful.

Edit: I also figure for example that there's still plenty of 25 year olds out there that are more mature than plenty of 45 year olds.
 

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So, iyo is it wrong of me that my age range for women is so liberal? I'm 43, but I guess I'm open to women in the age range 23-63. I figure their brains are pretty much fully developed by 23. Btw, my only relationship so far was an ldr with a woman who's 20 years older than me. If I would've been picky about age, then I never would've had my only relationship, so I don't really have regrets. We only met in person once, and the most meaningful thing we did was cuddle, and it was beautiful.

Edit: I also figure for example that there's still plenty of 25 year olds out there that are more mature than plenty of 45 year olds.
No, I don't think that is wrong, because you are both adults. But I don't think adults should have sexual relationships with teens and smaller kids.
 
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No, I don't think that is wrong, because you are both adults. But I don't think adults should have sexual relationships with teens and smaller kids.
Gotcha. I just wonder what people think sometimes. Like I've heard stuff like "Well when you were 20 she was just newborn, so its basically fucked up." But the way I figure it is that I may have been 20 when someone was newborn, but it still doesn't change the fact that now I'm 43, and now she's a 23 year old fully mature adult. But still ideally I'd like someone closer to my age than 20 years. But I just like to keep an open mind on an individual woman by individual woman basis because otherwise I might really miss out. After all, look at my only relationship so far.
 
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Gotcha. I just wonder what people think sometimes. Like I've heard stuff like "Well when you were 20 she was just newborn, so its basically fucked up." But the way I figure it is that I may have been 20 when someone was newborn, but it still doesn't change the fact that now I'm 43, and now she's a 23 year old fully mature adult. But still ideally I'd like someone closer to my age than 20 years. But I just like to keep an open mind on an individual woman by individual woman basis because otherwise I might really miss out. After all, look at my only relationship so far.
I don't like it when there is a 20 years difference, but its not as repulsive. I have my self had a boyfriend for a coupple of years who was 10 years younger tbh. But I'm not proud of it. I also think 15 years between adults is ok. But I must admit 20 years do feel somewhat weird, I'm not gonna lie. But at least its not illegal.
 
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I'm not a woman obviously :LOL:. But I will post here anyway to provide some additional perspective. I'm a male virgin just like you, though I am significantly younger at the age of 22 and turning 23 at the end of this year. And yes, while you might think that me still being a virgin in my early twenties may seem more normal compared to your position, I still can empathize with your position and understand exactly why you'd feel this way about virginity. And to be perfectly clear, I'm not saying this out of pity but out of both encouragement and respect. Because you clearly demonstrate a great deal of authenticity and mental fortitude. You won't have sex until the opportunity comes where it's with someone that you share the proper connection with and that is something that I so greatly admire. I am exactly the same in this regard. It can still be incredibly frustrating to wait however due to the fact that society puts so much pressure on men to begin boning when they're young because if you don't, that societal stigma will label you as a "loser" even though deep down, this is absolutely not the case. I say fuck society! Society does not get to determine your overall individual greatness and value to the world. Nor does your sexual and/or romantic experience. You, and only you, have the right to determine that. I'm very proud that you've stuck to your guns and stayed true to your principles despite the societal pressure.

When I think about all of this in context, I like to imagine that the gateway to self-actualization and discovering meaning to life is very much like the sport of Cross Country Running. And I use this analogy, not because I believe that life is a race but because of the nature of the sport itself. In Cross Country, the meets and races are a long process and just like life, it's best that you run at your own pace. Don't worry about the people that are far ahead of you, because you are not them and they are not you. And just like any long-distance race, trying to pace yourself too quickly will only leave you exhausted much quicker, and make you more miserable overall in the long run. And just like life, you can also greatly benefit yourself by helping both you and others. But most important. In cross country, it doesn't matter how fast or slow you are. As long as you know that you did the absolute best that you could then that's all that truly matters.

I'll end this textapoolaza with a quote that a former Cross Country teammate of mine once said to me. "Only you can stop you."
 

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I'm not a woman obviously :LOL:. But I will post here anyway to provide some additional perspective. I'm a male virgin just like you, though I am significantly younger at the age of 22 and turning 23 at the end of this year. And yes, while you might think that me still being a virgin in my early twenties may seem more normal compared to your position, I still can empathize with your position and understand exactly why you'd feel this way about virginity. And to be perfectly clear, I'm not saying this out of pity but out of both encouragement and respect. Because you clearly demonstrate a great deal of authenticity and mental fortitude. You won't have sex until the opportunity comes where it's with someone that you share the proper connection with and that is something that I so greatly admire. I am exactly the same in this regard. It can still be incredibly frustrating to wait however due to the fact that society puts so much pressure on men to begin boning when they're young because if you don't, that societal stigma will label you as a "loser" even though deep down, this is absolutely not the case. I say fuck society! Society does not get to determine your overall individual greatness and value to the world. Nor does your sexual and/or romantic experience. You, and only you, have the right to determine that. I'm very proud that you've stuck to your guns and stayed true to your principles despite the societal pressure.

When I think about all of this in context, I like to imagine that the gateway to self-actualization and discovering meaning to life is very much like the sport of Cross Country Running. And I use this analogy, not because I believe that life is a race but because of the nature of the sport itself. In Cross Country, the meets and races are a long process and just like life, it's best that you run at your own pace. Don't worry about the people that are far ahead of you, because you are not them and they are not you. And just like any long-distance race, trying to pace yourself too quickly will only leave you exhausted much quicker, and make you more miserable overall in the long run. And just like life, you can also greatly benefit yourself by helping both you and others. But most important. In cross country, it doesn't matter how fast or slow you are. As long as you know that you did the absolute best that you could then that's all that truly matters.

I'll end this textapoolaza with a quote that a former Cross Country teammate of mine once said to me. "Only you can stop you."
Wow. Thanks man. I don't mean that sarcastically either.
 

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Everyone is a virgin to the experience of a new person. Learning the mind/person/body. Who cares. When it is the right person it will fall into place. Just as long as you are not using it as an excuse, you should be fine. There are plenty of books you can read if- you have not already. Wherever you do, do not think porn will show you how it is done or is how to do it. Also, inquire on how to build up stamina from other men. imo That would be something anyone ~ virgin or not should take into account. One pump chumps are not what females are looking for. :LOL: Correction, I can not speak for the entire female population- I assume most are not looking for.
 

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I'm not a woman obviously :LOL:. But I will post here anyway to provide some additional perspective. I'm a male virgin just like you, though I am significantly younger at the age of 22 and turning 23 at the end of this year. And yes, while you might think that me still being a virgin in my early twenties may seem more normal compared to your position, I still can empathize with your position and understand exactly why you'd feel this way about virginity. And to be perfectly clear, I'm not saying this out of pity but out of both encouragement and respect. Because you clearly demonstrate a great deal of authenticity and mental fortitude. You won't have sex until the opportunity comes where it's with someone that you share the proper connection with and that is something that I so greatly admire. I am exactly the same in this regard. It can still be incredibly frustrating to wait however due to the fact that society puts so much pressure on men to begin boning when they're young because if you don't, that societal stigma will label you as a "loser" even though deep down, this is absolutely not the case. I say fuck society! Society does not get to determine your overall individual greatness and value to the world. Nor does your sexual and/or romantic experience. You, and only you, have the right to determine that. I'm very proud that you've stuck to your guns and stayed true to your principles despite the societal pressure.

When I think about all of this in context, I like to imagine that the gateway to self-actualization and discovering meaning to life is very much like the sport of Cross Country Running. And I use this analogy, not because I believe that life is a race but because of the nature of the sport itself. In Cross Country, the meets and races are a long process and just like life, it's best that you run at your own pace. Don't worry about the people that are far ahead of you, because you are not them and they are not you. And just like any long-distance race, trying to pace yourself too quickly will only leave you exhausted much quicker, and make you more miserable overall in the long run. And just like life, you can also greatly benefit yourself by helping both you and others. But most important. In cross country, it doesn't matter how fast or slow you are. As long as you know that you did the absolute best that you could then that's all that truly matters.

I'll end this textapoolaza with a quote that a former Cross Country teammate of mine once said to me. "Only you can stop you."
You are growing into a very wise man! Proud of you Crow for sharing your experience/incite in such an impactful way. 💯 You should do that more often!
 

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Never understood the virginity fetish considering how the act of sex is organic in nature. Who cares if a guy's a virgin but I do agree that the first time, presuming people have a choice in the matter, should be with someone they've really connected with so skillfulness isn't the main expectation like in sport sex.
 
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