One thing that destroys the process of me trying to be warmer with others is when I cross paths with those people who pretend not to care and put up a face. Or maybe even people who genuinely just don’t care. The last thing I want is to give these people the satisfaction of seeing my vulnerable expressions or honest thoughts. I know that they get off on it. So in return I act indifferent right back towards them. I can’t tell if I’m on the right path with how I deal with them or if I should stick to my guns and just be warmer.
I make a conscious effort to ignore the fact that they're indifferent and just try to show warmth to everyone.
Treating people warmly makes me feel good, so I do it for the sheer satisfaction of it.
Also, I know it's hard to do, but it's typically better, when unsure, to treat others like they like you than like they don't. Even if a person is really indifferent or cold towards you, most people can't show coldness to someone who acts on the assumption that they like them, because it makes them look bad. It's just one of those subconsious social cues, most people follow instinctively.
What got me thinking about this is the Apollo mission.
Apollo 1 lives in infamy as being a tragic disaster as a spark in the oxygen rich cabin of the capsule the crew was on, led to the entire thing catching fire almost instantaneously.
It feels so eerie when you look at this image, and you see...
I figured somebody might possibly like a thread where they will be able to post the random things on their mind, whether it's an idea, a simple thought, complex thoughts, problems... Anything they wish to share without criticism or judgement. Let's face it, writing down our thoughts, feelings...
I have an INFJ friend and I can't tell how he feels about me - friends or otherwise.
*Sat next to each other at work for the last 9 months until he moved to a different spot by himself about 8 desks away without explanation. (I did ask him and he was cagey about it, maybe I was...
Ok, so. As an ENFP I’m trying to achieve an artsy, eclectic interior design style. I need some inspiration from INFJs because I’ve seen it all on Google and out of curiosity want to know what your homes look like.
There is an absurd amount of threads on this subforum made by people (mostly people who are other MBTI types) complaining about "mixed signals" sent by INFJs.
This means some people try to get closer to INFJs, but we can't just be straightforward and say "NO, I don't want to get close to you"...