May I refer to this thread :wink:What I mean is, "what's your love language?"
How do you show affection and how do you like others to show affection to you?
Wow, that is me...completely. Just too add a little (though you pretty much took the words out of my mouth), others truly wanting to spend time with me is when I really feel loved and I think this comes from my fear of doing the initial reaching out to others. There's always some concern for wanting to be close, but not clingy, and fear of "bothering" the other person that makes me anxious about being the one to ask others to spend time together frequently. However when they initiate that time I am always much more relaxed and will therefore feel that there is a mutual care and I'm not putting time into others who aren't actually willing to put in anything themselves.May I refer to this thread :wink:
To give a personal response, I think my primary preference of receiving affection would be quality time. It means a lot to me if someone asks me to do something or they invite me somewhere - without there being any benefit for them other than my company. If someone does this with a pure intention, it's one of the greatest thing they can do for me.
Me showing affection would be acts of service. I enjoy being helpful to others with problems I specifically can solve. Like, if it's a computer or math problem and they have no clue themselves. When I care for someone I try and think of ways *I* can contribute with what *I* have to offer, because my practical abilities aren't that common and it boosts my self esteem to know that *I* have been helpful.