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Why are you afraid of death?

  • I'm afraid to die because my death would cause grief to my relatives and friends.

    Votes: 10 38.5%
  • I'm afraid to die because all of my ambitions, my plans, my projects would come to an end.

    Votes: 2 7.7%
  • I'm afraid to die because I'm worried that the process of death might be painful.

    Votes: 9 34.6%
  • I'm afraid to die because I would no longer be able to have any experiences.

    Votes: 9 34.6%
  • If I died, I would no longer be able to care for my dependents.

    Votes: 2 7.7%
  • I'm afraid to die because I'm afraid what would happen to me if there is life after death.

    Votes: 4 15.4%
  • I'm afraid to die because I'm afraid of what might happen to my body after I die.

    Votes: 1 3.8%
  • Other

    Votes: 7 26.9%
  • I'm not afraid to die.

    Votes: 10 38.5%

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Meaning - your own inevitable death. I feel like this subject should be less taboo to talk about because it's helpful to talk about these kinds of things instead of letting them rot in our heads (pun intended).

So, some questions on the subject!

Does it scare you to think about it or are you more accepting of it? If it scares you, what would you say scares you about it? Do you feel like any of the categories that were listed in this video resonate with you? It's okay if none of them do. Feel free to share your own specific fears.


1.I'm afraid to die because my death would cause grief to my relatives and friends.
2. I'm afraid to die because all of my ambitions, my plans, my projects would come to an end.
3. I'm afraid to die because I'm worried that the process of death might be painful.
4. I'm afraid to die because I would no longer be able to have any experiences.
5. If I died, I would no longer be able to care for my dependents.
6. I'm afraid to die because I'm afraid what would happen to me if there is life after death.
7. I'm afraid to die because I'm afraid of what might happen to my body after I die.

How do you envision your funeral going? Would you prefer there to be mourning or would you rather people celebrate your life? Maybe you don't have a preference.

And lastly, how do you think you would like your remains to be cared for? Natural burial, normal? Alternatives? I've heard of being made into a tree for example: Biodegradable burial pod turns your body into a tree - CNN
Or even turning your ashes into a "LifeGem" - LifeGem - Ashes to Diamonds
 
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I am not afraid to die.

And I hope people celebrate my life, because I cried enough tears while I was living! :)
 

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Lol, I am like the most afraid apparently. But, I am a 6 after all. I'm blaming it on that!!!
 

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A lot of these examples given would require to be answered differently depending on the cause of death, I think. Dying violently or in an accident as a young man is obviously very different from simply falling asleep as an old man. There is no "general death" for me and exploring and discussing all the possibilities would take forever.

Generally, I know God will take me back sooner or later, there's nothing I can change about it, all I can do is make the most of the time He granted me on this world. I'm not really afraid to die and neither do I spend much, or any time, really, thinking about my inevitable death.
If I had to choose, I'd go either with an old-school Christian burial or be incinerated and my ash thrown somewhere into nature.
 

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I'm not afraid of death, it's pointless to fear inevitability. I don't care about my funeral or what happens to my remains after death, It won't probably matter as I won't to live to see it anyway.As for mourning I prefer not, sounds like leaving a pointless burden on other people, never liked whole drama concerning death. I see death as either form of liberation and obtaining true peace (if you just cease to exist after death) or beginning of a new journey better or worse than this one (if there is afterlife).
 

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I didn't watch the video

I'm not afraid of death. I'm afraid of where I'll go after death. I believe in heaven and hell. The least place i want to be is in hell

I'm actually looking forward to being with the Lord in heaven. But i believe I'm not good enough to be taken up there yet


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I voted the 1st option, but I'm not afraid to die.
I just would rather avoid death so that my nuclear family doesn't have to live with my loss. I know they would be so devastated, they would never recover. They would eventually, after many years, learn to live with it, but living with it is not a good life. I know that their pain would be infinite.
 

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There's so many things I want to do first! I don't fear death; I'm actually looking forward to it. I'm intensely curious to see what happens :) I'm hoping I get to be patient for a long time though :)

I've told all my loved ones that I plan on living forever, but should something unfortunate occur, to know that I love them and don't be too distraught.
 

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I'm not afraid of eventual death. I do want to live a long and fulfilling life, and I am afraid of that not happening. I'm not afraid of dying young, but of the monotony of a dull life and the effects of aging can concern me. As you get older (and I'm still relatively young), it does feel like time goes by faster, that youth is fleeting, that just as you learn things it's rather too late to do much with that insight, etc. Mortality starts to feel more real, whereas when you were a child it was so far off, as if it was a fairytale; you realize there is limited time and you probably won't do a fraction of what you'd love to do.

So I think being afraid of not being able to carry out ambitions, plans or projects and no longer having experiences is closest then. Death is not the only stopper to these things though.

The unconsciousness of death is not something I fear since I won't be aware of it, haha. The process of death....well, we all hope for a swift and painless one as possible.

I also fear aging more of out vanity than pain... I know that sounds terribly shallow, but it's true. Getting older doesn't just make you feel closer to death, it makes you feel....uglier.
 
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Literally the only reasons I'm afraid to die:

(1) I don't want to be in pain.
(2) I'm afraid of what comes after.

That isn't to say that, if I didn't have those fears, I would welcome death. I'm just indifferent otherwise because I feel like I live every day knowing in the back of my mind that it'll happen regardless. For that reason I never saw the point in making any serious ties here on Earth that I wouldn't be okay with abandoning, should I die any second.
 

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Another thought-provoking question! :proud:


I've never really found death to be that intriguing. I know there are some that find it to be a mystifying, even comforting topic. I wish I was like that. Mentally it's one of those topics I tend to avoid, kind of like in a pin-ball machine...the ball could go down that hole of thought, but I divert it at the last minute. Despite that, it's one of those topics my brain seems to land on more frequently than I'd like, probably because it provokes fear for me, and my brain seems to love to freaking me out -__-

Lately, I've been feeling a lot of distress when thinking of the passing of my loved ones. For me, I fear that much, much more than I fear my own death.

This April, I had to put my dog down, and it was one of the most horrible feelings I've ever felt. I would walk into my room and expect her to be there, sleeping. I would be so aware that the sounds of her paws walking around the house were missing. She really helped me cope with all the emotional changes I had been going through, like an endless pile of love there for me whenever I needed it. It was so easy to make her happy, despite how old she was getting. It's still difficult not having her around, I miss her everyday. Grieving seems to be an art form that some people are better at than others. I can spiritually rationalize someone's death, but it takes a long time to accept the truth, that their presence is absent from my life, and will always be.



So, I picked #1. The only pain I feel when pondering my death is how it would affect my family and close friends. Even writing this, I am getting emotional thinking about it! I know they'd get better after all the distress and shock was over with. But I think the thing that is hardest about it is the separation: I wouldn't be there with them anymore, we wouldn't be able to share any more time together. It's more of a selfish reason. "Tu me manques"; you are missing from me.

I'm not a planner, so I don't think I'd really care to have anything specific at my funeral. I'd honestly rather not have a funeral. I'd rather leave it up to my loved ones to figure that out, since it's more for them than it is for me. I would prefer to be buried in a forest or a natural setting, so that I could contribute to the growth of something else, even in death.
 

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I'm not afraid to die, in a strange way I'm actually looking forward to it ....eventually. I've faced death, spent a lot of time pondering it, as with most scary things familiarity lessens fear. In any case, there's no avoiding it so why waste ones life fearing death, I prefer to spend my finite time enjoying my life.

As for what people do afterwards, I have no strong feelings on it, it's not about me, it's all for their benefit. I guess I just hope that whatever they go with it brings them a measure of peace. I have asked that they play a particular song at whatever they decide to do, "always look on the bright side of life" by Monty Python.

 

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Death. Not a fan. Too final. Living life and then BOOM -- gone. Too much friggen closure. I can't say "Okay, this being dead stuff ain't working for me, get me the hell out of here now."

Funeral -- I don't want one. I don't want people talking about me when I'm not around to respond. It's a control issue. From the great beyond.

I want to be cremated and ashes spread in Aruba at the huge pet cemetary near Baby Beach.

Honestly, I don't have much time left, 20 years if lucky, having too much fun, don't want to die.
 

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I'm afraid to die because I'm worried that the process of death might be painful.
I'm afraid to die because I would no longer be able to have any experiences.

voted for those two.
 
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There are two sides. The majority side is unafraid because it is certain death is a transitional process, and that the love i have cultivated in this lifetime for the creator and its creations will guide me. The other side, fears that in my dying moments my ego will remain attached to experience. That my ego will not let go off earthly things when its time to project into the bardos and move on.

I would be okay with people mourning or celebrating, however they wish to express themselves. I would like a norse funeral, water brings me peace. Raging bright flames as a homage to how i wore my heart through life, and when extinguished how the silence instilled in my being dissolved conflict.
 
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