I can see people's motives and hidden drives a little too easily. One time in college, there was this slutty girl that liked to hang around everyone's boyfriend. She lived with a boyfriend, yet she still slept around in our department with others. She was very plain, a little overweight, and the type that would stay last at a party hoping to get the attention and sex from the drunk guys.
I totally trusted my boyfriend with this girl. But her behavior was annoying and disrespectful to me at times. There were times where she would talk about oral sex with my boyfriend and exclude me from conversation. My boyfriend wasn't the brightest crayon in the box either so he'd be pretty oblivious to her slutty flirtations.
One time at a party, I notice he left with her. I lived in the same complex as the party. I went to my apartment and the both of them were there in my pad. He was getting a beer (my special beer) for her out of my fridge. He really could be a dumbass (he's an ex, mind you). Anyway. I said nothing except "hey I was looking for you." Slutty girl left and went back down to the party. I had to have a little talking to with my boyfriend. He (ISTP) told me he felt neglected because I was being a social butterfly so he left with slutty girl because she wanted to try our kind of beer. A squabble between us ensued. He ended up leaving and going home to his place. Not good. All over a dumbass ugly slut. I problem with him wasn't that I thought he would do anything with her, but he did give her one of my expensive high grade craft ales. Lol.
Because I like to call tramps out on their shit, whether they are doing it to me or doing it to their friends, I spoke up. I went back to the party. I saw the girl from across the room and zeroed in on her. She was sitting down and in the middle of a conversation witho someone next to her. I was sat down across the room from her. And then I said her name in my strong teacher/parent voice "XXX, I want you to quit it." And everyone in the room got quiet and looked at us. She looked at me innocently and said "Excuse me?" And I wasn't buying it. I said, "You with XXXX(my boyfriend). I know what you are doing and I don't like it and it's going to stop right now, got it?" She stared around the room at everyone looking at her. She started to say something in protest like "But I haven't...." And I cut her off and said "Don't. I know what you are doing and it's going to stop." Then she finally dropped the act and nodded towards me.
Then I eventually left the party. But most of the women were grateful. I found out later that she had passed herpes along to a few people in the group. Oh those stupid drunk victims. Men beware...
That wouldn't make an awful lot of sense considering slut means someone who sleeps around with more than one man.Every woman should be a "slut", their only chosen man's "slut".
Amen!Well, I would never find it funny, thats for frikken sure. Think about it, if you're standing there, and someone comes up and flirts with your partner in front of your face, its like an insult, almost a direct challenge. Ok, you may not want to start a fight over it, but you sure as hell should feel the implied disrespect from the flirter to you.
I would always nip that in bud, excuse myself with a glare that shows my disapproval, and hope that my partner follows suit. If he has enough respect for me, he will blank any attempts by a flirter, if he doesnt and lets the flirter carry on , oblivious to my discomfort and the implied insult to me, I will turn on my heel, and leave him where he stands. I wont have a partner that pretends to play all innocent and clueless as to when they're being flirted with.
I will also be telling that partner that if it happens again and he behaves in the same way, we will be over and done with.
Speaking from experience, ain't that the truth!I dont put up with that kind of nonsense in my life. Life is tough enough without added drama and BS from outside forces.