Well, I sort people. LOL
Acquaintances: Once I meet a person, I consider them as a friend. I will then take the initiative to be friends and converse with them for a while. Sometimes, I just merely say hi to them in corridors, but if I don't feel like they reciprocate the relationship, then I'd better yet let them be. Though, I would know them and they would stay on this first stage forever, just that I won't have the initiative to say hi anymore.
Trusted: When this breach is broken, I will then connect with them in a deeper, more personal level. I will get to know their interests, capabilities and facebook so I can communicate with them more. Sometimes, I will even initiate the facebook chats; if they are so interesting. Although, this stage can be reached by people if they are my groupmate or if I am leading them in a team. This is also the part where I give them my personal assessment of the MBTI.
Friend: I am more aloof and friendly to these people. I will usually be open with spending money for them, but they will have to pay me back. This is more of a "since I trust you, I should show you why you should trust me" phase; so I'm usually kindest at this stage. I will show them how dedicated I can be as their friend and that I will stay with them through thick and thin. I have a lot of people in this stage, LOL. Of course, I don't let them abuse me. o D o
Good Friend: They are usually the people I invite to my house so my parents can meet them. Yes, usually for that purpose and drinking. LOL. I would also share my finances with them and not ask for them to return it. I trust them enough to share quite about myself and also don't expect them to tell me things they don't want to share with me.
Close Friend: I tend to show physical affection with them more than anyone in the previous stages. I am comfortable with being myself with them and showing even my most sensitive sides. My friends might see me cry or soften up, but they never really know why; these people do. More often than not, these people also share with me their lives.
Best Friend: These are the people I consider my long term friends. The ones that I am sure will stay through thick and thin because I have tested them. I trust these people fully and most of the time, they can use all of my personal belongings without asking permission. In fact, one of my best friends (the really really close one) has the key to my house. LOL. That's how much I trust them. They are actually considered as part of the family. They also don't need to know why I'm sad, they actually know without being told. In fact, most of the people in this area don't really communicate with me often. But we're still very close and still the same people when we get together.
A lot of my friends don't believe in giving names, but I do. I mean, I don't remove people from their area, I don't even forget people. LOL. It's easier for me to explain relationships with people that way. I have a lot of friends, so when they ask me where they stand, I have an answer. o u o
I usually don't force them to talk about themselves and usually just talk about what we're common. When I find that they're interested in getting to know me, then that's the time I do talk about myself. Most of the time, it's my point of views in a class we had or still something in common. I rarely share about my family information unless I really know I can trust them and I never suffocate them with talks about myself or forcing them to talk about themselves. Only if I know it's good for them, I will do it; but usually I don't. Especially when they tell me that talking about it makes them relive the past. I guess I try to be as sensitive with what they need as possible? o u o
