Well....
This thread seems to sum up all interactions I've had with ESFJ's. Personally, they terrify me. This is because every interaction I've had with a female ESFJ, their utter disapproval of me was soul-crushing in its intensity and thoroughness. I always came away with the impression that everything about me offended their sensibilities.
These experiences may have been out of the ordinary, though, because each time the ESFJ in question was my manager at work.
Now I'm genuinely curious as to why the ESFJ's were offended by me. Unfortunately, when I knew any ESFJ's I was still too terrified of social interaction to honestly ask them why they seemed to hate me.
Anyone want to take pity on me and let me know what you like/dislike about INTPs? Honestly, I won't be offended or take anything personally, or be hurt by anything.
Well. . . . to answer your question, not every ESFJ is the same because I personally love to read, and I also love nerds. lol. So I tend to get along really well with INTP's and even INTJ's at times, [but a lot of times y'all seem to think that I'm an ENFP instead of ESFJ at first, which I've never understood.]
Upsides to INTP's are:
You're interesting. You're always full of new ideas with good reasons [which I love, because I'm a really curious ESFJ]
You're introverted. Which means that if I need space because everyone barges in on me ALL THE FREAKING TIME you can give me space and not feel like I'm ignoring you, because you completely understand my need for space at times. [of course you need more space then I do, but for some reason I also need my space.] You also know when I need to just relax and you can command me to relax, even when in the midst of a large group of people that are around me, and you can step in and save me at times from the world which is SO GREAT!
You tend to be HUGE cuddlers, and SO AM I!!! =D
You love to read. I love to read. Therefore we get along. =D
You tend to be more intelligent then the average type which I love because then you can keep up with me and also teach me new things. [Again, I'm a super abnormal and curious ESFJ, so the new and innovative really intrigue me.]
You're really good at being specific when you list off things that I need to work on. You can go: "I really don't like it when you don't notice that you're standing in front of other customers when you're shopping in the store" [I grew up North where people didn't worry about other people in the store so when I went down South and did that the Southern INTP was like, WHAT? You're normally really people-friendly but in the store you just blitz to get your items on your list and you don't worry about other people! "oops" =S]
Hmmm. . . well I pretty much like everything about y'all so I could continue, but I may end up writing a book. =P
Cons [can] be:
Sometimes you can come across a bit cold [but I've gotten used to that now so it doesn't really bother me.]
At times when you're talking to my friends and they ask you how you're doing and you go "well, I've been working on [these specific functions of Anatomy, or Physics, or Chemistry, etc.] in great detail and they look at you going. . . . ??? I tend to have to step in and have a "signal" or something to "dumb it down, or to change the subject because people just don't get it." [But I love learning new things so you can explain it to me later. =D]
Sometimes we disagree on our basic worldview and philosophy, [which doesn't bother me and I'm open to conversing it with you, [but it can be a killer to the idea of a close friendship or a relationship.]
Sometimes, [when you leave for over a week [or month, depending on the relationship] and you don't answer my e-mails or texts or say hi to me in the hallway, I can begin to wonder if you still care about me. So I may begin to act "colder" towards you because I'm preparing myself for rejection.
Honestly though, I like you guys unless you decide to be a real jerk to me and maul me over. But that rarely happens, so were pretty cool. =D
