[Alaya]

Don't be fooled by the 9's outer demeanor. We may appear calm outside, but inside we have either shut down from the conflict to avoid being drawn out into the situation, or we are bottling up all the rage soon to be released by some future trigger.

Of course, if you're a healthy nine, you're entirely present to the situation using your incredible peacemaking ability to mitigate the conflict while at the same time being calm about inside and out.

 

[Alaya]

So most of you aren't like the Dalai Lama, then. He is the *epitomy* of calmness, imo.

lol I wish I was like the Dalai Lama, but realistically speaking, I don't come close to that yet. Though I may appear like that to the outsider. I can't count the many times that I've been asked the same question now asked by you as to how I can maintain such calmness in conflict situations, but the truth of the fact is, that I'm not really in the conflict, I'm million of miles away.

I don't do this as often as I used to, since now I'm a bit more present to myself to notice when I'm drifting away. But it happens on occasions.