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The anger consumes me...right before the anger comes out there's a shiver i get at the back of my neck....and the only thing I can control is the physical aspect of my assault...everything pretty much comes out verbally and its pretty damaging...people don't see it coming but man I've been known to say some crap that can break ppl..It's a rage..I'm always like wtf afterward..

.but I've learned to calm it down a bit and control it in bursts...and just bite into people calmly..calmly seems to be evilly funny because I get to watch ppl look stupid.....:proud:
 

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A swear word may be heard, I think of more than I say though. My general speed increases and I get sloppy. I will be even less talkative than before, mostly giving very short political incorrect answers. This is something that I find very hard to compensate for. I know when I'm angry(not so hard for me but most people can't see the diff.) and I have my own rules that I apply. I step in in some kind of maintenance mode.
No smashing of stuff or cursing of people. And I don't cry either, standing or not. Bad people do bad stuff and good people... I am good or at least I aim to be.

I try to quickly cool down, in my head repeatedly telling myself, and get on top of things again. This I do best alone so don't talk to me, you will only make it take longer until I am back at 100% again. Getting angry is unproductive, I can't remember when it have ever helped me.

My dad can act like an immature kid, the worst kind, seeing him helps me to know how not to behave.
 

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Punch something, kick something, put my head into a wall just like any other rational ISTP, of course.
Put down the pipe dude, let's walk.
 

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I throw my car through the garage door.
I get online an look through Arendee's most recent posts to find infinate amusment.


I'm actually rarely mad. People get me mad when they're being hypocritical, wont give me any time to be alone, or when they're specificly trying to get on my nerves...

But even then... A lot of the time, i find when i act mad, i'm not really mad. A lot of the time i'm honestly just disapointed, frustrated, irked, or sad.





It will always be for a very good reason, but on the very rare ocasion that i'm actually mad....

 

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Ugh...working on it. Anger is a huge issue of mine. I tend to internalize a lot of my anger, so it can manifest physically: knots in the stomach; chest cavity hot from the rise in blood pressure; throbbing vein; clenching teeth; maybe even a headache. When I even glimpse the warning signs of anger, I do breathing exercises, count to ten, recite the fruits of the spirit, anything until I'm reasonably in control of myself. Not that it always works. I used to punch my pillows.

My brother put it very succinctly the other day when he said to me: You have rage in the blood.
 

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I love anger. It's the only thing that helps, when I'm trying to get something done and I reach the point where I realize it's not working. All I have to do is get angry, scream, swear, throw a fit, and somehow I break through whatever is blocking me. It never fails.

Lovely anger.
 

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If i get angry i raise my voice and quite fast notice the emotion and then it gets suppressed by thinking of something else and blocking out the source. It happens very very rarely tho, can only remember 3 times in the last 6 months. I tend to raise my voice and make it clear that they should go away -now-. Violence solves nothing, only makes matters worse.
 
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I love anger. It's the only thing that helps, when I'm trying to get something done and I reach the point where I realize it's not working. All I have to do is get angry, scream, swear, throw a fit, and somehow I break through whatever is blocking me. It never fails.

Lovely anger.
It is a great motivator, isn't it? Often the only one that works for me.
 

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I cannot argue...I don't understand how people can just stand there and yell at each other. I just can't do it...it's either leave me alone, we're gonna rumble or I'm breaking up your stuff. Thankfully I've learned how to stop myself from getting to that point. I can definitely say it is a rage.

Don't get me wrong, it's not like I used to run around with a chip on my shoulder, slamming my fist in my palm yelling, "you wanna piece of me?!". The last time I really lost it was almost 10 years ago. Often times people think I am shy or timid because I simply do not argue and I don't have much to say usually. I try to keep myself composed and if I can't get away then I start hulkin' out. Then it's all down hill after that.

I'm glad I've learned preventive measures in regard to my anger. I'm not going to lie, try to downplay it or take the high road (I'm too civilized for violence...that type of thing). It was always a very raw emotion and very difficult for me to get it under control once it was out of control.

Now I just get testy and impatient...much easier to deal with...kinda
 

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Depends on how angry I am, and whether I am also at fault. I can still reason when I am a little angry. But if someone pushes a really hot button, that's it. Once a doctor in the hospital at which I was working (I was a healthcare administrator and managed a specialist clinic) tried to push blame onto me for something that HE screwed up. Sorry man, WRONG MOVE!!!

I was so angry I didn't give a s*** that drs were like gods in the hospital. I took him down - stared him right in the eye and told him what I really thought of what he was doing - no mincing of words, no self-censorship. Just whatever I thought. I spoke slowly, but loudly, making sure he heard e.v.e.r.y s.i.n.g.l.e w.o.r.d I had to say to him about his unacceptable behaviour. And after that, I made sure his boss knew about it as well.

So I can say some unbelievable things that cut pretty badly when I'm angry (more like shredding people up LOL). I'm mostly able to control my physical actions though. I don't do anything violent!
 

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When the rage gets me I just can't control it. I've put my fist through doors, beaten my knuckles against walls until they're bloody, smash anything I get my hands on. I know that sounds unhealthy but strangely enough I can control it around other people. I just give curt answers and put on a "don't get in my way" face.

Hah, so I guess the answer is not well. Anger management has helped me though, whenever I read that crap I burst out laughing and the anger dissapates.
 
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