This is both a general question for you and a specific advice question (if you desire to check the spoiler). Whatever your interest: how do you react when someone you're attached to tells you that you're getting too close, and pushes you back, even if they're not pushing you away? EDIT: I shouldn't have titled this "half-rejections"--how sad is that; I was trying to ask if it hurts when other people set boundaries in a relationship. What is the difference, in your mind, between a respectable boundary and an unnecessary one?
EDIT: Wow, I put a really confusing story here the first time. Basically, I need to set boundaries in my not-really-a-relationship with an INFJ who's all in; I'm not, yet. I'm trying to figure out how to tell him not to push me to make decisions about my feelings till I'm good and ready. I hope to do that as painlessly as possible, hence this thread.