Dude, your friend sounds like a trip.I'm a gymnastics instructor and I work with children. Its the most rewarding thing I've done in my life. I'm also free to act like a child when doing this. They just bring it out of me. Also next to that, when I compare myself to my ISTP 5 friend, he has these wild visions of power that I don't have. He wants to be on the top of a skyscraper firing people for fun while demanding BJ's. I just want to find a nice community to be a part of that I can help out in and be accepted. I'm trying to make more money right now. But acquiring power just seems so shallow to me. Its fun, but there are more important things to do in life than be isolated yet powerful.
I have a feeling this is what I was complaining about in my "fame isn't worth it" thread. It says 8's "OVERVALUE" power, possibly meaning its not as good as we make it out to be. I, personally, have come to value the simple life. Warren buffet is one of the richest men in the world right now, and he lives like a poor person. He does finance only because its "fun," lmao. What a cocky bastard.Eights typically overvalue power. Having power, whether through wealth, position, or simple brute force, allows them to do whatever they want, to feel important, to be feared and obeyed. But those who are attracted to you because of your power do not love you for yourself, nor do you love or respect them. While this may be the Faustian bargain you have made, you will nevertheless have to pay the price that whatever power you accumulated will inevitably be at a cost you, physically and emotionally.
I would like to respond to your question with a few other questions.Dear 8s,
How does integration happen for your type? I'm interested in hearing what it feels like to you, what goes through your mind, what inspires you to reach out to healthier levels.
I am still on the fence with whether I am 8 for a core type. However, I do know 874 and 5 are the only types that have ever stuck out to me.1. Why are you interested? - for purposes of learning about enneagram
2. What is going through your mind when you are curious about type 8 integration? - never been there myself so nothing comes up
3. How do you achieve healthier levels of integration as a type 1? - come to 1 forum and ask if you really wish to know
4. Do you think that at healthier levels of integration you would be so concerned with type 8 integration? - ones seek to expand their knowledge at any levels, silly question
5. What does it feel like to you when you relax and see the perfection that exists in every moment? - again, come to 1 form and ask
I've answered your questions now I challenge you to answer mine.