How do you know if an ISFP likes you?

You may never know!! I'm friendly and try to take an interest in most people which can be misinterpreted as being flirty. I also naturally remember the little details you might only expect someone to remember if they liked that person, but I make note of details regardless of any feelings. I guess the only give away is if I give up my alone time to spend time with someone regularly, or I put in an effort to start a conversation

JaguarPap said:

My sister is one and her signals are very different from mine (INTJ) and our dad's (ESTJ.) iSFPs are different signal-wise from introverted intuitives. ISFPs seem to have the most subtle signals of all of the sensors? Or no?

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I usually tend to try and spend as much time with someone as I can. If I like someone, chances are you will eventually notice that I am around all the time. However, the more I like someone, the more awkward and clammed up I can appear to be. I don't know about the other sensors but I would definitely say that ISFPs are the most subtle. We are very good at masking our emotions and it is hard to tell what we are feeling even with our closest friends sometimes.

JaguarPap said:

I was eating cake when I read this (German Chocolate) and I imagined looking at people like I look now—with slight upset-stomach.

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Ha! Well, think more along the lines of an angel food cake or pound cake. Those are my preferred cakes.

Although, to be fair, the slight upset-stomach can be applicable to certain situations with people you like but also don't.

Jis said:

I usually tend to try and spend as much time with someone as I can. If I like someone, chances are you will eventually notice that I am around all the time. However, the more I like someone, the more awkward and clammed up I can appear to be. I don't know about the other sensors but I would definitely say that ISFPs are the most subtle. We are very good at masking our emotions and it is hard to tell what we are feeling even with our closest friends sometimes.

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I can relate to this. If I am attracted to someone, I become silent and unlike my usual self. :x Unless I get to know him better. Then all hell breaks loose and my goofy self surfaces. Hahaha.

But what you said about masking emotions with our closest friends, I do it, too. Although I'm usually okay with it, sometimes, it feels a bit...lonely. Like I understand everyone and can read them like open books - every emotion that flits across their face, every frustrated sentence - but no one understands me.
@Jis - why do you think we do this? For me, I feel that I don't share much about myself the way my best friends do. They'd go on and on about their day or what has happened recently and when it's my turn to share, it's usually just a summary of what I did recently. They're genuinely willing to listen but I just don't share as much (although I am the most social of all of them) and I wonder if it's because no matter how much I care for them, I still value my privacy.

chicanai said:

I can relate to this. If I am attracted to someone, I become silent and unlike my usual self. :x Unless I get to know him better. Then all hell breaks loose and my goofy self surfaces. Hahaha.

But what you said about masking emotions with our closest friends, I do it, too. Although I'm usually okay with it, sometimes, it feels a bit...lonely. Like I understand everyone and can read them like open books - every emotion that flits across their face, every frustrated sentence - but no one understands me.

@Jis - why do you think we do this? For me, I feel that I don't share much about myself the way my best friends do. They'd go on and on about their day or what has happened recently and when it's my turn to share, it's usually just a summary of what I did recently. They're genuinely willing to listen but I just don't share as much (although I am the most social of all of them) and I wonder if it's because no matter how much I care for them, I still value my privacy.

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Definitely. I feel that I act this way sometimes because I don't feel that my friends can understand my viewpoint and why I am feeling a certain way. This leads me to sometimes not want to say anything because I feel like they will judge me for what has happened.

If I had to come up with a reason, I would have to say (at least for an ISFP male) that it is because of social norms and the risk of being too exposed or vulnerable to someone. Men are supposed to be head-strong, confident, and the go-getters in society, but it is hard to identify with those traits given the person who I am. I don't really share my deep emotions and how I feel or what I want to do about someone unless it is with my closest friends. Even then, it feels "weird" to fully expose myself to someone about something that is bothering me because we as ISFPs don't really do this that often. Our emotions run deep, unbeknownst to others and it is hard to exactly verbalize what we are feeling sometimes.

Jis said:

Definitely. I feel that I act this way sometimes because I don't feel that my friends can understand my viewpoint and why I am feeling a certain way. This leads me to sometimes not want to say anything because I feel like they will judge me for what has happened.

If I had to come up with a reason, I would have to say (at least for an ISFP male) that it is because of social norms and the risk of being too exposed or vulnerable to someone. Men are supposed to be head-strong, confident, and the go-getters in society, but it is hard to identify with those traits given the person who I am. I don't really share my deep emotions and how I feel or what I want to do about someone unless it is with my closest friends. Even then, it feels "weird" to fully expose myself to someone about something that is bothering me because we as ISFPs don't really do this that often. Our emotions run deep, unbeknownst to others and it is hard to exactly verbalize what we are feeling sometimes.

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@Jis Thank you for sharing! This was very helpful. I am decently self-aware but there's still things I'm figuring out about myself so what you said provided better understanding of what I might be feeling/thinking.

May I know which types your friends are like? My closest are INFJ and ISTJ; while both are very caring, I don't share as much with them because they have a tendency to try to impose their views on me sometimes. There is an ISFJ whom I can share my craziest thoughts with, knowing I will not be judged, but she has a tendency to share too much about her personal life i.e. family and stress. I have my own problems that I face on my own and do not tell people. Why should I tell a friend my colleague was rude to me that day? Or that I'm so stressed about A, B and C?

But somehow, people don't think twice before doing this to me and I've become an aunt agony to so many of my friends. Because I'm positive and cheerful on the outside, I don't think they know how much all this negativity affects me - to the point where I don't want to look at my phone. I know that sometimes, people need a listening ear but I wish that they could grow stronger and "self-soothe" instead of spreading negativity. I know, I know. It's mean of me but I get tired of dealing with other people's crap sometimes. Does this happen to you or have you ever felt this way?

I have no problem making jokes in a crowd, even strangers, if I'm in the mood. But when I'm put on the spot to answer questions or share about myself, that's where it feels "weird", as you have mentioned. I can conclude that that is the reason I "summarise" updates about myself whenever I'm with my friends; because while they are ok sharing theirs with me, I am not.