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Hi.

Example:

Say you are at home sitting at your couch and being antisocial while watching TV, and a friend invites you over a party.


Now. How do you know if you really want to go to the party because you feel like VS you really want to go to the party because it would be what you SHOULD do?


In the first case you are being yourself, in the other your EGO/social norms are being a obstacle.

So how can you tell the difference?
 

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I thought typical ISTPs would not do any "should do" thingy ;-)
 

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How can you NOT tell the difference? I can't really say I've ever had any problem distinguishing what I wanted from what I didn't.
 

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What about if you really want to do something you should do, because it's the right thing and you have a genuine desire to do the right thing?
 

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You know that you really want it, when you feel empty, upset, and you NEED IT.

The rest is obvious. Many factors influence (friends at the party, time you haven't had party...)
 

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I think the difference for me comes from where I feel the need (yes, yes) and what goes in my mind the moment I'm faced with the situation.

When I really want something, I feel it deep in my body, from my stomach, through the heart to the tip of my toes. I also start imagining how much fun I'd feel when I'd do / have this thing.

When I don't want to do something and feel forced by society (or by my personal beliefs of how I should act) I feel it from my head and I try to convince myself to do it by explaining to myself why I need to do it, what is expected of me and how I'd turn this unpleasant situation to an enjoyable experience.
 

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Hi.

Example:

Say you are at home sitting at your couch and being antisocial while watching TV, and a friend invites you over a party.


Now. How do you know if you really want to go to the party because you feel like VS you really want to go to the party because it would be what you SHOULD do?


In the first case you are being yourself, in the other your EGO/social norms are being a obstacle.

So how can you tell the difference?
Because I won't go just because I think I should. I'll only go if I really want to. Most of the time, it would have to be something serious for me to not want to go, like having to work the next morning, or for some other practical reason.
 
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