By people, I don't mean family or loved ones. I mean people at work, casual friends, people on the bus, ...
If you do something nice for someone, someone finds you funny or just generally appreciates your company, how can they show it in a way that you will appreciate? I get the impression that gushing words of thanks or hugs make you awkward, so... what's most appreciated?
For me, for example, it's definitely a hug, someone putting their arm around me, or just a casual touch on the arm..accompanied by a smile. (Unless the other person is utterly repulsive or I dont'know them at all, in which case just the smile is preferable), any form of physical contact makes me feel really appreciated.
So I'm wondering how it is for you? If you open a door for someone, do something nice for someone or help someone out, how do you want to be thanked? How can a stranger make you feel like they're really grateful for something you've done? How can a casual friend or a colleague make you feel like they really appreciate your contribution?
And, on the other hand, how do you tend to show appreciation for strangers, casual acquaintances or colleagues?
For me, with total strangers, it's generally a smile or an act of service, like helping them find something if they're lost or giving up my seat on the bus.
With colleagues or people that I know a little bit and appreciate a lot, it's generally words of affirmation... I talk non-stop and tell them everything that's going on in my head and tell them how much I appreciat them for being there.
And with people I love, it's touch. ...but that belongs in the "love language" thread, so I'll stop there.
Anyway, would be interested to hear your thoughts.
If you do something nice for someone, someone finds you funny or just generally appreciates your company, how can they show it in a way that you will appreciate? I get the impression that gushing words of thanks or hugs make you awkward, so... what's most appreciated?
For me, for example, it's definitely a hug, someone putting their arm around me, or just a casual touch on the arm..accompanied by a smile. (Unless the other person is utterly repulsive or I dont'know them at all, in which case just the smile is preferable), any form of physical contact makes me feel really appreciated.
So I'm wondering how it is for you? If you open a door for someone, do something nice for someone or help someone out, how do you want to be thanked? How can a stranger make you feel like they're really grateful for something you've done? How can a casual friend or a colleague make you feel like they really appreciate your contribution?
And, on the other hand, how do you tend to show appreciation for strangers, casual acquaintances or colleagues?
For me, with total strangers, it's generally a smile or an act of service, like helping them find something if they're lost or giving up my seat on the bus.
With colleagues or people that I know a little bit and appreciate a lot, it's generally words of affirmation... I talk non-stop and tell them everything that's going on in my head and tell them how much I appreciat them for being there.
And with people I love, it's touch. ...but that belongs in the "love language" thread, so I'll stop there.
Anyway, would be interested to hear your thoughts.