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I'd like to know how INFJ's behave in a restaurant setting. Do you always go for the same thing? Do you try to be adventurous? Do you like trying new foods? Do you look at the menu, and if so for how long?

Whenever I go out for a meal I always take my time to read through the menu (5 Minutes) and then pick something that sounds nice. I'm always up for trying something new and exciting and rarely get the same thing twice.
 
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I call the waiter and tell them to bring me their best durian. No need for menus - unless it's a durian restaurant, in which case I'll try every durian I haven't yet.
 

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When I was a kid, I would pretty much always order the same thing (lasagna or chicken fingers). Those were my favorite foods. After I got married though, my hubby introduced me to lots of new foods so basically if we are out now, I will always always want to try something new UNLESS something I got before was just THAT good and I've decided that it's the thing I love best on the menu.

But generally speaking, we both like to explore new things and we both take forever deciding what to get. Hubby is an INFJ too. Sometimes he feels pressured to decide quickly because he doesn't want to annoy our waiter/waitress. And if I have already decided, he feels even more pressured to decide because he doesn't want to hold us up lol. I try to tell him to relax.
 

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Usually I will try something new, unless I am in the mood for something specific. Sometimes I will have trouble deciding between a couple of options, but will go with what will be the most pleasing to me or catches my eye.
 

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I'm usually boring and order the same thing each time. Sometimes I like to experiment, but that comes when I am stressed and need a new experience (oh that inferior Se).
 

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I always know what I'm in the mood for before going in but I look through the menu anyway. Then right before ordering I change my mind, then change back and go with what I originally wanted. I think in a cost vs. benefit analysis (like a dork) when it comes to ordering out and trying new foods. The benefit of taking a chance with something new and liking it vs. not liking it and wasting money isn't worth it for me. I usually stick with things I love and get them over and over.
That or insist whoever I'm with gets something new so I can try it...poor soul. :tongue:
 

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Oh.

Well, I always order the same things.

Out of my list of foods that I like, I choose whatever that restaurant is best at preparing.
ie: Italian, I have spaghetti or chicken parmesan. Sometimes I'm really adventurous and have veal parmesan (but I feel bad for the baby cows, so rarely).

I'm usually very accommodating on whichever restaurant others choose, because there's sure to be at least one thing on the menu I can eat. Even if it's just mashed potatoes and gravy.


I've never liked very many foods.
Every person I've known who has tried to pressure me into trying new things (father and first bf) were just doing it for themselves in weird ways... I hated everything they forced on me.
So now I really don't try new things, and don't care for people telling me to.
It's my mouth and I'll do with it what I please.
Unless we're starving in the jungle, in which case I'll make my own choice about when I need to break down and eat worms to survive. If anyone tries to push me, I'll be forced to take longer to get around to it.


My ISFJ mother is really cute in that, even at home, she thinks everyone should eat "what they feel like". Whatever she is in the mood for is what she makes for herself, and if she is the one cooking, she will make whatever anyone else wants as well.

This is definitely ground in to my thoughts about food, I now can't imagine being the main cook and forcing others to all eat the same exact thing just for convenience sake. Two or three options seems sensible.

While our method is indulgent, it also helps me see from a different view when it comes to social norms about meals.
Have you ever noticed how completely uncomfortable people get if everyone is not having the same thing in a home environment?
Or if everyone doesn't eat at the same time, or each cook their meals separately (provided it's not roomies)?

Yup, people can get downright weird about it. Like it's super taboo or something.

Out at a restaurant, they can get downright shifty if you won't try some new thing.

Since when is what I put in my mouth someone else's to decide? I don't get it.
It makes me grumpy too, if no one can tell. :tongue:
 

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Most of the time I go into a restaurant for something specific. If it's a place I've been to many times before, I order the same thing; there's moments where I will get something different if I feel adventurous. When I'm going someplace I've never been before is usually when I'll try something completely new.
 

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Most of the time I go into a restaurant for something specific. If it's a place I've been to many times before, I order the same thing; there's moments where I will get something different if I feel adventurous. When I'm going someplace I've never been before is usually when I'll try something completely new.
Me too, if I'm a recurring visitor then I want what I really liked last time. It's only when I go somewhere new that I try something new.

Also I'm a really picky eater
 

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INTJ, but... I wanna play too! :tongue:

It depends where I am, really. At IHOP, I almost always have the same thing. Because it's goddamn delicious. Occasionally I'll go for one other item on the menu that I like... and I sometimes admire the other food, because it looks so good, but generally that's the fancy topped waffles and crepes and what not. I couldn't eat that stuff anyway as I'm not good with sweets.

At the local pub, I generally order about 3 different things. Occasionally, I'll be in the mood for something else. But when I got to the bar, I'm usually going there for specific things.

Mostly, I'd have to say that I quite often order the same things over and over and over.

INTJ creature of habit, I guess.
 

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I usually order the same thing, otherwise I'm sorely disappointed. On top of that, I can rarely stomach eating out. It makes me too anxious. I have OCD and I'm really concerned by other people's hygiene so I'm rarely comfortable enough to let someone serve me my meal as I will be too distracted by that to enjoy myself.
 
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So...do you like durian? Just a hunch. I could be totally wrong. I mean, I don't know what gave it away.
My relationship with durians is strictly r-rated.

 

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I'm a pro at ordering since I have worked in catering for so many years and I pretty much know what I will get on my plate. There are things that I like and I will order them and if they're not on the menu or unavailable for some reason then I will go for 2nd...3rd option etc. I never order chicken and rarely salmon since I eat that at home very often. Mostly I like to start with some goats cheese or seafood, duck or steak for mains and finish with anything chocolatey.

This is pretty typical for me after checking the menu for few seconds:

Waiter: "Do you know what you want?"
Me: "Always"
 

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I used to only order my favorites while out, but now I am more adventurous and will try to order something new every time thanks to my boyfriend. Sometimes that can be difficult though, since I am vegan and certain restaurants have very few options haha.
 

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Family style group dinners I would order a dish that adds variety to what other people have ordered. It may or may not be my fav.

If I would go to a new place, I tend to order their famous or signature dish. If they botched it, I would mostly not go there again (if they mess up signature dish, I am not confident they can do other dishes justice). My 2nd and 3rd visit I would order something that I may like or have seen others ordered that looked enticing. By the 4th time I would have developed a fav.

For now I have several places that serve something I like. Whenever a craving for a particular dish hits and if I am in close proximity, I would go get a take-out.

How do I decide on the fav? It has to be something that I like and don't cook at home (too many ingredients or too involved is the reason because I am a decent cook, can duplicate restaurant dishes). It has to be something the restaurant does well in authentic fashion. I used to work in various restaurants waiting tables therefore I knew when a dish was rarely ordered, it was for a reason or the chefs would be rusty when preparing it (therefore not tastes as good as the ones that are more popular). Also, the value stand point is important to me. If both dishes have the same price, I'd rather order the shrimp than the chicken. From working in the restaurant I know that they charge the inexpensive ones slightly higher (like chicken) to soften the margin for the expensive ones (like seafood).

In all honesty, I put a lot of subconscious thought (didn't analyze my order style until now when I saw the question) into what I order in a restaurant. It has to fit the 1. taste/authenticity, 2. value, 3. convenience (not driving 50 miles to get something), and 4. something I don't cook at home myself in order for the restaurants to get my repeat business. It is never random.
 

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I like trying new things. Half the groceries I buy have 'limited' edition on them, lol.
 
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