Ok, so this question is a little bit of me projecting my own problems out there in the world, sorry for that. Anyways, I’m sure I’m not the only one on this site who struggles with this.
Looking at the “Confession Thread” and the “What do I Find Attractive in the Opposite Sex” thread has forced me to address this personal issue and inspired me to ask you all how you go about this. Any advice is welcome; sincere advice is cherished :wink:
All my life, I’ve been attracted to certain girls, like most guys. But there are some girls who - to use a cliché - simply take my breath away. When I was younger, back in middle school and high school, I didn’t really have trouble with this issue. If I liked someone I made it known one way or another and found out if I had a chance. If I did, I perused it; if I didn’t, I let it go. But as I’ve gotten older, and my days spent less and less with the same people year after year like in school, it has become harder to do this. All too often I see someone I’m attracted to only to watch that someone pass on bye seconds later – like at a store, at college, or my apartment complex, etc. Such a brief elation and they’re out of my life forever.
I’m pretty insightful into much of my own life, but to this, dating/etc, I’m totally ignorant. I very much want a relationship; I’m capable of taking one on, a least financially, physically, and emotionally. But I have no clue how to go about this. I’m in college. I’m self-sufficient. I have a full-time job. I have strong self-esteem, ambition, and many goals.
Honestly, however, for most of my life I’ve not allowed myself or anyone else to become too attached to me. This was in part because of my lifestyle and work: I didn’t want any distractions or extra commitments. But now that I’m open, now that I’ve made myself available, I’m kind of stumped about what to do; I’ve been out of this kind of thing since I was like 17-18 and I’m 27 now. Sorry for the rant, but I feel it is time for me to fess up to this shortcoming of mine and improve on it. Guess I’m just looking for some insights or advice. But I also believe it’s a good topic for INFPs to discuss. Thanks :blushed: