IRL, I'd say I come off as cold and guarded to most people. at first at least. When I meet other guarded people, usually INTJs, I'm drawn. IDK why, but I am. Kind of like "birds of the same feather..." I'm basically interested because that person is like me... or because I see that we share this similarity... and I sorta know/think that once we let our guards down to the other, we can both come to believe in each other and whatnot. But what about you guys - how do you react when you meet another person who comes off as cold or guarded , assuming you also think that you can come off a cold or guarded?