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To me, I am a very kinesthetic (physical person) so for me to express almost any type emotion to a woman, I'd have to do it in a physical way; that way is mostly through sex. Also, I would gladly have casual sex with a woman whom I believed that there wasn't a high likelyhood that they didn't have an STD. Sex can be casual or love related for me.
 

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For me, it can be both. It just depends on my feelings for the other person.
 

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Honestly, I think it can be both. Obviously sacred sex would be the best (I don't mean anything religious by sacred) but I think casual sex is acceptable if both (or more XD) partners know what they are getting into, though I think most of the time one of the partners wants to be more than just ''casual''. As long as no one gets hurt and everyone is safe, I think people are free to do what they like. I'm not really into that type of sex though ^^
 

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i think it's whatever you want it to be. if it's a casual fling then it's a casual fling. if it's a way you and your new hubby show each other love then it can be that too. personally i've craved both before and probably will some day have both.
 

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When I was about 19ish-23 I didn't want sex to be anything other than sex. It was very much all about finding what I liked, what I didn't; what I would do, what I didn't want to do again; discovering what I wanted. If the sexual atraction was there, that was good enough for me during those years.

As I've gotten older, ideally I'd prefer to at least like the guy and be willing to sit down and have dinner or a few beers with him. At times the need gets unbearable and you just need to get laid. When that used to hit, I'd revert back to my former mindset. A girl's gotta be flexible sometimes.
 

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I don't even know. I've said to myself at one point "no sex before marriage" (because of bad past experiences) but haven't been good at upholding this. I guess I should just find something in between. Sex doesn't have to be everything about a relationship, but it also doesn't have to be nothing until marriage.

I guess the jury's still out on this one. I'll take it on a case-by-case basis.
 

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I'm not a "casual" but I'm not a nympho either. So I'll go with the "in between".
 

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Sex is spiritual for me.
 

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It is a spectrum. It can go from spiritual love-making to unabashed carnal sex.
 

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I see sex a lot of different ways. I think the act in itself is near sacred, regardless of the circumstances. We're talking about creatures in a screwed-up world with so much deception and isolation at least in a moment joining together and trusting each other with their bodies. That's kind of profound and beautiful, even if it happens between two strangers in a dirty back alley or whatever. Personally, I can't justify screwing myself out of the amazing sexual experience which happens when you've developed layers of feelings with someone first, but uh, I sure as hell don't have problems with other people exploring their sexualities (though I really do have a problem with people not doing so responsibly - with protection, I mean).
 
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Sex is like KFC , first you start with the breast working down to the thighs, then when your done with that, you have a nice warm wet box to slide your bone in... :crazy:

I couldn't help it, I love that dumb joke. I have to have fore play, I love using my tongue and fingers, and my confidence would be low without the 25 mg. Viagra tablets which I take only because of the edge they give me. I don't care for virginal princesses but I also don't care for whores.

I have to have feelings for a woman as she must for me also. Sacred? Nah , I wouldn't call it that, nor casual. It is part of a serious relationship , sex is the easy part, its what comes after that's hard, the caressing, the "I love you's" , "Do you love me?" , ect. The mushy talk that comes after, that unease's me.
 

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It's like eating.

We all should be regularly eating nutritious and unpretentious meals while having conversation with someone we like. It should satisfy but not overwhelm. That's the culturally-established "right" way to eat.

Sometimes you have a really great meal that you savor and enjoy with just the right sort of company and you remember it for years afterward.

But then at times you might just grab a bite to eat with someone you just met. Sometimes these meals are satisfying and turn out to be the start of great friendships. Other times you just feel greasy, disappointed, and annoyed if not bitter.

But let's face it, most of the time you eat by yourself standing in front of the fridge picking things out of the deli drawer.

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It's definitley a casual thing for me, I won't deny that it is more special when it's with somebody you love, but I also enjoy getting together with a bunch of friends, having a few drinks, playing strip apples to apples, and seeing where the night takes us ^_-
 
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