I want the ISTJs in my life to be happy. So fire away.
This is a very different question than what you asked, at first.woah. woah.
Calm yo farms please.
Its not really directed at me trying to coerce my ISTJ friends...Manipulating people isn't my intention, thank you very much.
I just want to know what makes them happy. My ISTJ dad is pretty miserable to begin with. But sometimes, little things just make his day a bit better.
@Yardiff Bey @rawr_sheila @Christie42476 @Khiro
Accept them as they are and let them alone to bring out the best in themselves as best they see fit.
Why do YOU have to "bring out the best in" someone else? What makes it your responsibility? What gives you the idea that you might know what is "best" in someone else? What gives you the idea that you can even do it at all?
^It's Fe. There's not much you can do. Besides helping out in practical ways, leave them alone. They'll need space to sort things out themselves.
In my experience, ISTJs don't want the people in their lives to treat them like "projects," nor do they want anyone else assuming responsibility for their happiness, for defining their potential, or for helping them to realize that potential.
All of this resonates strongly with this ISTJ.One doesn't. As a general rule you really shouldn't try to bring out the best in a person unless they ask you to. Most people feel more comfortable with some kind of support system, but nobody likes being pushed in the direction someone else thinks is best. Be a friend, not an overbearing pseudo-parent.