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Hullo,
The fears I am referring to are in the social department.
Specifically, I seem to have extreme apprehension in the... romance realm. I hate to use that word, but it seems here I must. So, yes, I find that I can never approach or otherwise talk to girls I might be interested in, because if I have any feeling that I might be an intrusion or a bother to her, I simply can't do it. I simply can't stand the idea of being seen as "just another guy" that wants to impose himself in a girl's life selfishly and lustfully. Maybe I think too highly of myself? But really, I think it's just a fear of rejection and a fear of being misunderstood. Yeah, I am sure that by just "facing my fears" and going forth with the thing I could make some headway in my relationship endeavors. However, I am sure many of you INTPs can relate to my apprehension. I can never really know how people feel about me. I most often assume that girls don't want me bothering them, that they aren't interested in the way I might be.
Does this make sense?
Any input would be appreciated. If no one has anything to say, I'll take that as a sign that I need to figure this out myself. However, as I said, I am sure many INTPs here can relate to my relationship apprehension (coupled with my relationship desire--it's a terrible thing).
Thanks!
The fears I am referring to are in the social department.
Specifically, I seem to have extreme apprehension in the... romance realm. I hate to use that word, but it seems here I must. So, yes, I find that I can never approach or otherwise talk to girls I might be interested in, because if I have any feeling that I might be an intrusion or a bother to her, I simply can't do it. I simply can't stand the idea of being seen as "just another guy" that wants to impose himself in a girl's life selfishly and lustfully. Maybe I think too highly of myself? But really, I think it's just a fear of rejection and a fear of being misunderstood. Yeah, I am sure that by just "facing my fears" and going forth with the thing I could make some headway in my relationship endeavors. However, I am sure many of you INTPs can relate to my apprehension. I can never really know how people feel about me. I most often assume that girls don't want me bothering them, that they aren't interested in the way I might be.
Does this make sense?
Any input would be appreciated. If no one has anything to say, I'll take that as a sign that I need to figure this out myself. However, as I said, I am sure many INTPs here can relate to my relationship apprehension (coupled with my relationship desire--it's a terrible thing).
Thanks!