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I find it incredibly easy to just pack my stuff and move somewhere else where I don't know anyone and I instantly feel like it's home.

I've moved into a new place three weeks ago and it seems like I have lived here my whole life. I can't even believe that just three weeks ago I lived in a different city with different people, it seems like it was ages ago... then I think about where I lived before that, for a whole year until July this year and I literally cannot fathom that I ever lived there. It seems like it was two years ago. I can't imagine ever going back because it seems like it was at a completely different point in my life.

The first time I moved to uni in 2014 (from another country), I felt the same, after about two weeks I felt like that was my home and couldn't imagine ever living in my previous home that I lived in since I was 7! It seemed like a distant memory.

I don't understand why I feel like this, when I constantly think about how time flies and how January seems like it was only three months ago. The two feelings contradict each other

Is this a common thing? Everyone always seems to go on about homesickness and so on. I don't get it.
 

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I don't feel so disconnected from home like you, but I'd go anywhere and not miss my home at all, because there are new things to discover, and that makes me excited! I don't feel uncomfortable
 

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Like you I seem to establish comfort fast.

I have moved quite alot in my life tho so my larger complaint is the work involved as far as arranging, transferring, packing, moving, it can be a more exhausting task.

I am inclined to want to move out of our current place just to a more comfortable setting, it would still be local in my case as I have no intentions of moving my kids from their school district. They moved one school district in their lives which I think is enough for them to have some grasping on stepping outside your bubble but yeah I definitely avoid them moving even close to the amount I did growing up. Anyways tangent, blah, so yeah was looking at local places. And the thought just exhausted me. At least for now. I have moved well over 20 times in my life so for me its an exhausting task more then anything. It can be very nice tho just to turn a new page or create from a blank slate.

What your doing sounds exciting and fun. To me the task just sounds like a chore.

I am not sure tho I know what homesickness feels like tho. I hate the question "Where are you from" because I have like no answer for it no roots.
 

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Pretty easily. I've moved my fair share of times and rarely ever miss my previous place. I'm always excited to go somewhere new. I guess I'm kind of like a gypsy in the sense that moreso than a physical home, its my people who are home to me, wherever they are. I do really love where I live right now though. The ocean is enchanting me.
 

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I find it incredibly easy to just pack my stuff and move somewhere else where I don't know anyone and I instantly feel like it's home.
Boredom is my sign for "I'm home". When boredom hits the beauty of a new home is Go outside! to cure it.

Why boredom?
I have noticed when I'm bored the following applies. Safe, secure, well fed, worry free, stability, content.

I got a true love-hate-thing going on with good hotels. Throw in the bags, eat dinner -> bored. 1-3 hours after arrival I'm home. It also sucks because I probably did travel to get away from the "home"-feeling. :p
 

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Extremely easily...
 

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Depends on the place, if it's somewhere I actually want to be and decided to be, then yes. Other times it can be difficult. For example, I've had some dorm scenarios where I didn't have much of a choice and didn't wanna really be there, so it was almost as if the whole time I was living there, I wasn't really "there" (mentally checked out). So in those cases I didn't adapt as easily as you.
 

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Instantly. I moved a lot when I was little. It sucked, but it made me extremely adaptable. It scares me more to stay in one place. Unpacking my stuff, hanging my clothes, trying to establish it as home, knowing it will not last forever. I don't know how I feel about the fact where I am now is the longest I've been anywhere.
 

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I've recently moved for the first time in my life, to another city which is a lot bigger than my home town. It seems like things are happening soo fast here all the time. There aren't people I know. I'm an introvert and I'm also antisocial, so I thought, even if I was very excited to move here, it would be at least a little bit hard. It turned out, it is not. I loved accommodating to this place and I did it the first few days I arrived. Who'd have known.
 

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Heyo,

I adapt as surprisingly fast as you do!

In fact, for the past 14 years of my life, I've moved to 8 houses (5 of them in the same neighbourhood together; 3 in the same one altogether, but different than the first 5). I've gone to 5 different schools: 1 was a primary school in a different state, but then there's 1 to finish up primary school, 1 high school where I was wrongly place, 1 main high school for 3 years, then 1 different high school in a different neighbourhood to finish up high school. Although it wasn't all that far (still the same country), I did lose some friends.

Now I'm in university/college in UK (originally from Malaysia). To be honest, throughout all the 3 years of my studies so far it hasn't ever been about adapting to the place - but about adapting to the people and the culture. I've never been to UK before all that moving around (as written above), but when I stepped onto this soil, it felt like I have been here, like I knew this place from somewhere before. It's the sociology that needs getting used to.

I guess everywhere we go the earth is the same, but the people who live in those different lands are what it all different. Earth itself has never changed and its people has. That's what I find hard getting used to.

Other than that, I understand what you mean. I feel you. lol
 

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I've lived in my current residence since February, in this county since Oct 2014. I Dont really feel like its "home" necessarily... But I'm basically comfortable here.

I do not get homesick.
 

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Nope. I've traveled a ton and, when I lived in Madison, WI, I never felt at home. The only other move I've made is to Austin, TX and, even after 2.5 years, it still doesn't feel like home. I mean I can get comfortable in a certain area fast and have certain places I like to travel like Thunder Bay, Ontario or El Paso, TX where it feels a bit like home, but nothing will ever replace Marshfield, WI, which is my true home.
 

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Heyo,

I adapt as surprisingly fast as you do!

In fact, for the past 14 years of my life, I've moved to 8 houses (5 of them in the same neighbourhood together; 3 in the same one altogether, but different than the first 5). I've gone to 5 different schools: 1 was a primary school in a different state, but then there's 1 to finish up primary school, 1 high school where I was wrongly place, 1 main high school for 3 years, then 1 different high school in a different neighbourhood to finish up high school. Although it wasn't all that far (still the same country), I did lose some friends.

Now I'm in university/college in UK (originally from Malaysia). To be honest, throughout all the 3 years of my studies so far it hasn't ever been about adapting to the place - but about adapting to the people and the culture. I've never been to UK before all that moving around (as written above), but when I stepped onto this soil, it felt like I have been here, like I knew this place from somewhere before. It's the sociology that needs getting used to.

I guess everywhere we go the earth is the same, but the people who live in those different lands are what it all different. Earth itself has never changed and its people has. That's what I find hard getting used to.

Other than that, I understand what you mean. I feel you. lol
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I've moved 14 times, and I'm very used to making new friend groups and packing up my things in a couple of hours. I actually just moved to an apartment a couple days ago and I'm enjoying it so far. I find it very easy to move, but maybe that's just because I've moved so much? Idk, but I don't really get homesick because I've never had one place to consider 'home'.
 

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I've never gotten homesick. I think for that to happen, you have to not want to be where you are. I love being on the road, so it's simply not an issue for me.
 

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No It usually takes me a while to get used to a new place especially when others are around, it could some weeks before I blurt out something.
 

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easy peasy, cause i'm renting at the moment so i know i won't always be here.
but it might be difficult for me to part if it was a house i'd invested into, had kids grow up in etc just for the memories.
depends as well - are you moving for good reasons? then you're more likely to be happy with the new place no?
 

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I don't like to move from my house. But I'm very good in traveling. I like to sleep in the new places and in somebody's houses. If I could afford it I would travel everywhere, from Alaska to Australia. But the lack of money tends to find new ways for funding my trips.God bless that man, who invented couchsurfing. If somebody doesn't have such experience, I strongly recommend to try it. Last time I was looking for the House swap But you can find your own favorite site. Last time I was so lucky that my master even cooked for me!
 
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