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it might not be an infpy thing, just wondering. i have an abnormal fear of talking on the phone, i cannot make myself pick up the phone and call somebody to save my life, especially if i need to call strangers. i guess i'm afraid mostly that the other person will not understand me or i'll say something inappropriate or sound ridiculous/ will not find the right words.

it's silly because i find it much more easier to talk to strangers in person, even approach strangers, despite my introverted-ness. i think the cause of this might be the need to morph myself to the expectations or personalities of others. so if i call strangers i'm clueless how to act and i think if i'll be myself they'll definitely think i'm freaky and hang up. i hate it. :bored:
 

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it might not be an infpy thing, just wondering. i have an abnormal fear of talking on the phone, i cannot make myself pick up the phone and call somebody to save my life, especially if i need to call strangers. i guess i'm afraid mostly that the other person will not understand me or i'll say something inappropriate or sound ridiculous/ will not find the right words.

it's silly because i find it much more easier to talk to strangers in person, even approach strangers, despite my introverted-ness. i think the cause of this might be the need to morph myself to the expectations or personalities of others. so if i call strangers i'm clueless how to act and i think if i'll be myself they'll definitely think i'm freaky and hang up. i hate it. :bored:

I tried doing this with an INFP friend of mine.....I had to FORCE myself to ring him......
But it sorta faded because I think he didn't really want to talk on the phone either.
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I don't know why I hate talking on the phone so much, but I really do. It makes me really anxious. And I always feel bad about not calling people, but I feel so awkward talking on the phone. I'm more comfortable talking to someone either face to face or e-mail or something, but not the phone. Especially long conversations. I guess it's just better for me to see who I'm talking to and for them to see me.
 

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I used to be very afraid of the phone. The only person I would voluntarily call was my mom.

But then I got a job where I had to call up strangers. While the job only lasted about a month and I still feel nervous calling up strangers, I feel more confident about talking on the phone now. Once I start talking, I'm fine. :happy:

I also learned that almost everyone hates talking on the phone.
 
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I have no problem talking on the phone. o_O
 

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I don't mind talking on the phone. I just hate it when the phone rings because I find it disruptive and it agitates me. I usually let someone else answer it or let it go to voicemail.

I prefer face-to-face interaction, where I can observe facial expressions and body language.
 

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That annoying thing that rings in the corner and when picked up, A serious sounding voice starts talking to me about important stuff, Yea I hate that thing >.<

I only like it when it's someone I know well.

Most of the time I ignore it but when you get that determined one who just rings and rings and rings and ring and rings
 

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hahah my inner INFP is happy. :laughing: I found others like me!

I HATE talking on the phone. HATE. That kind of hate. My throat feels like it closes up, and I have to plan out what I'm going to say. ....I panic. :frustrating:

It's really odd, but it happens everytime I try and call someone that isn't a close friend. My family gets super pissed at me when I'm home, because I just make my mom do the calls. .......>> who said I had to act like a grown up just because I'm out of the house?! :dry:
 

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On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the most loathsome), making phone calls is a 10. Answering the phone is only about an 8. Unless it is my husband or my special one. Then it's fine.

I get so nervous when I actually have to make a phone call. Calling my husband - what if he's busy? Maybe I should just text him. Calling my special one - I really want to hear her voice, but what if somebody else answers the phone? Sometimes I have to schedule appointments or other business calls over the phone. I write down what I intend to say. The problem is that the other person on the line doesn't follow the script...
 

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Evidently I have a hot voice on the phone, so I get a little more flirty / cocky -- in the end it's all good.

If I'm talking to a GUY though, THEN I hate talking on the phone :p. Except that one time I had to call customer support for my cellphone bill. I semi-flirted with the gay guy on the phone and got a $100 credit. I still feel both pride and awkwardness on that one.

Outside of that, like some have mentioned, the ring drives me up the wall. It's like someone nagging at you.
 
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I much prefer texting. I would get a text-only option if there was such a thing. I can't stand talking on the phone for more than 1 minute with people that I know (unless it's a friend I haven't talked to in ages and ages, then I rather enjoy catching up). People that I don't know, however, I can talk to them for a while. I volunteer at a crisis hotline though, and I'm accustomed to talking to strangers on the phone for hours at a time. I actually like it quite a bit.

But yeah, when MY personal phone rings, I do not want to answer it most of the time. It's an irritating interruption.
 

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I don't like talking to people on the phone myself. E-mail is much easier since its not direct. Especially people I don't deal with or know well. I dread the phone ringing as it is as I hate answering it as well.
 

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I dislike talking on the phone because I'm usually thinking or doing 14 different things at once and sometimes my mind wanders a bit during a conversation (just a second or two). Then I'll come back to the present, and I'll know that I've missed a key piece of information the caller was giving me. Then I have to ask them to clarify, which is rude on my part because it shows that I wasn't paying attention. Plus, I'm not always the most eloquent person so at times I stumble over my words. :dry:

I greatly prefer email because 1) it gives me a chance to think through what I want to say, instead of having to give an immediate response, and 2) there's a backspace button. There's no backspace button in a face-to-face conversation!
 

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I just don't talk on the phone that much. What I hate is you youngun's who will text me freakin War and Peace. After the third text in the same conversation I call 'em. Three consecutive texts get's ya a call. Oh yeah.
 

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I used to hate talking in phones too. But when I moved out and had to get a job, I suddenly had to make lots of phone calls all the time.

Now I've gotten used to it. All I think about when I make a call is that I'm going to communicate with the voice of someone and that they get paid to answer your questions and not be rude or mean.

But I do have a hard time calling my friends. I usually text them.
 

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I don't like talking on the phone, unless there is a specific thing to talk about and a clear ending for the conversation, but even then I'd rather talk in person. I just don't like how I can't see the other person's reactions to what I say. Plus awkward silences on the phone are 100 times more awkward than they are in person...so it feels like a do or die for me a lot of times.
 

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Yeah, I don't like talking on the phone much. Especially if it's a stranger. I've been looking for jobs and I tend to steer clear of jobs that have "answering phone calls" in the description.
 
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