[littleitaly]

okay so people think that just because I'm an ESFP, it means that I'm a completely shallow person. They think I'm just too "ditzy" to understand their deep world...which is false. I mean, yes, I admit that I may not think as much as other types or be as intellectual as they are but that doesn't mean all ESFPs are stupid and can't relate to serious matters! Yes, we love to have fun and do crazy, stupid things and crack jokes at every little thing :tongue:
but we can ALSO contemplate things and think on a deeper level. In my case, I love writing. and for me, that's the best way to write down my feelings/thoughts. I really don't like talking about them face to face because I can't seem to put the right words together. I guess that's why people see me as a shallow person... I'm just here to say that people shouldn't judge because all types are different and deal with things in different ways.

can anyone relate to this?

 

[QueenOfCats]

I'm ESFP and yeah, I often come off too ditzy or impulsive and some people in my life have looked down on me because of that. Fun-loving doesn't equal stupid. I feel uncomfortable talking about my deep emotions unless I'm feeling randomly confessional.

 

[Fat Bozo]

okay so people think that just because I'm an ESFP, it means that I'm a completely shallow person. They think I'm just too "ditzy" to understand their deep world...which is false. I mean, yes, I admit that I may not think as much as other types or be as intellectual as they are but that doesn't mean all ESFPs are stupid and can't relate to serious matters! Yes, we love to have fun and do crazy, stupid things and crack jokes at every little thing :tongue:
but we can ALSO contemplate things and think on a deeper level. In my case, I love writing. and for me, that's the best way to write down my feelings/thoughts. I really don't like talking about them face to face because I can't seem to put the right words together. I guess that's why people see me as a shallow person... I'm just here to say that people shouldn't judge because all types are different and deal with things in different ways.

can anyone relate to this?

Of course! In fact, if you read through the threads in this section, you'll find quite a bit of discussion on those topics, including one recent one about ESFPs being "shallow." I believe what I said in that one is if being concerned mostly with real people and things makes me shallow, then label me that, I don't care. I don't like endless theoretical debates about stuff that has no application to reality. But I FEEL deeply, no question about it, and I can discuss plenty of "deeper" subjects if there's things about it that apply to real people and not just theoretical models or endless speculation.

 

[Snow]

One of my best friends was an ESFP. She did seem to come off at first as ditzy, but I soon realized as I got to know her, that it was all my perception. You guys are awesome people, don't let others say otherwise :tongue:

 

[Fat Bozo]

One of my best friends was an ESFP. She did seem to come off at first as ditzy, but I soon realized as I got to know her, that it was all my perception. You guys are awesome people, don't let others say otherwise :tongue:

I don't really care if someone calls me "ditzy." Doesn't bother me in the slightest! :tongue:

 

[littleitaly]

@QueenOfCats

"I feel uncomfortable talking about my deep emotions unless I'm feeling randomly confessional"

Yeah!! I feel the same way and people don't understand it haha

 

[littleitaly]

@Revenant
thanks, man

 

[littleitaly]

@Fat Bozo

exactly! sometimes I feel like WE are actually more deep because we care about the things that are really important in life...people. I'll have to go check out some of those posts and defend my fellow ESFPs! some people can be so ignorant.

 

[Vic]

I'll admit to assumptions based on that ditzy persona. But if there's no other frame of reference for the individual it's difficult to change that assumption. As someone mentioned, it takes time to dig deeper.